Ingratitude is Contagious…Don’t Be a Carrier

“When the Lord heard your complaining, he became very angry. So he solemnly swore, ‘Not one of you from this wicked generation will live to see the good land I swore to give your ancestors, except Caleb son of Jephunneh. He will see this land because he has followed the Lord completely. I will give to him and his descendants some of the very land he explored during his scouting mission.’ (Deuteronomy 1:35-36 New Living Translation)


Ingratitude laced with grumbling, complaining, and murmuring is an easy trap to fall into. And it is so contagious. Someone grumbles and the next thing you know, you fall right in line and start grumbling too. I wonder if that’s what happened in the wilderness as the Israelites made one more trek around Mount Sinai. “I’m sick of this manna,” one complained. Then another looked at God’s sweet provision and said, “Come to think of it, I’m sick of it too.” The next thing you know the sea of ingrates becomes a tidal wave of grumblers and God sends them on another lap around the wilderness and places a “Do Not Enter” sign in front of the Promised Land.

When you think about it, ingratitude is a casual despising of God’s sovereignty. It’s like saying we don’t like how He is running things and think we could do it better.

Gratitude and giving thanks in all things opens our eyes to see God’s glory in even the smallest things. On the other hand, ingratitude blinds our eyes to God’s presence, and we miss His advances all around. It’s a choice, not an emotion. However, this choice to give thanks may very well open the way for positive emotions such as joy to emerge and take hold. Paul wrote: “Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again (because you probably didn’t get it the first time): Rejoice!” (Philippians 4:4, parentheses mine).

There is nobody more miserable than an ungrateful person. Margaret and I were chatting about gratitude when she mentioned how she tries to steer clear of those who grumble and complain because their ingratitude is so contagious. “I hate calling my sister,” she mused. “I mean, I love her. But talking to her is such a joy drain.”

“What do you mean?” I asked.

“All she does is complain. Something is always wrong with her house. She always has a new ailment. She gives me the latest obituary report and tells me who is sick with what. A couple of times I tried to cheer her up. You know, help her see the positive side of things. ‘At least you have a house. Think of all those people who lost their homes in the hurricane.’ But it only made her mad. She said I was not being sympathetic and that I made little of her problems. So now I just listen.”

Another friend told me of sitting with his father discussing the distribution of his “worldly goods,” when the time came to do so. “My dad had very little joy in his life,” Mike explained. “As we discussed who was going to get what when he died, I saw a pride in him I had never noticed before. ‘I did all this,’ he said as he waved his hand around the room like Vanna White. ‘I worked hard and earned it all.’ In his mind, he had earned it; he had done it all. Never once did he give thanks to God for all his blessings or acknowledge God’s goodness. He showed no gratitude, no thanksgiving, and certainly no joy”.

His things had become shiny shackles that kept joy at bay all his life. His things. How sad.

As Mike told me the story, I thought of Henry Ward Beecher’s words: “Pride slays thanksgiving…a proud man is seldom a grateful man, for he never thinks he gets as much as he deserves.”  Eyes shut tight to God’s glory.

I am reminded of an old saying that stirs and stings: “Gratitude turns what we have into enough.” Always enough. Jesus thanked God for the two loaves and five fish… and there was more than enough to go around (John 6:1-13).

Today, make a commitment to turn you grumbling to grateful, your complaining into contentment, and your whining (did I just say that…yes I did) into praising God!

Let’s Pray

[Sometimes I open my Bible and simply pray the Psalms. Join me today!]

Praise the Lord, O my soul. I will praise the Lord all my life; I will sing praise to my God as long as I live, (Psalm 146:1). Praise the Lord. How good it is to sing praises to our God, how pleasant and fitting to praise him! (Psalm 147:1). Praise God in his sanctuary; praise him in his mighty heavens. Praise him for his acts of power; praise him for his surpassing greatness. (Psalm 150:1-2). Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. His love endures forever. (Psalm 136:1). In Jesus’ Name I praise You! Amen.

What do You Think? 

Do you feel far from God today? If so, maybe you’re knocking on the wrong door. What does Psalm 100:4 tell us about how we are to enter God’s presence?

If complaining were a color, what color would it be?

If being grateful, thankful and appreciative were a color, what color would it be?

Now, what color do you want to be today?

Leave a message and tell me you color. Say I’m _____ for grateful or I’m _________ for grumpy.

Want More?

If you would like 2013 to be the year that you change your grumbling into grateful…that you get a handle on that little muscle with a big impact…your tongue, then check out my book, The Power of a Woman’s Words. It also has a Bible Study Guide and a DVD that is perfect for group studies or simply to dig deeper into God’s Word on your own.

 

14 Responses to Ingratitude is Contagious…Don’t Be a Carrier

  1. Cassandra January 16, 2013 at 1:24 pm #

    thanks for sharing this with me..
    this message certainly speak to me today.

    i’m yellow for grateful, i’m black for grumpy =D

  2. Joy Books January 16, 2013 at 4:03 pm #

    I choose to be grateful and joyous!
    The color of ungratefulness is a dark murky grayish brown.
    I see gratefulness as light sky blue with bright colors all around!
    I want gratefullness!!!

  3. pat hammons January 16, 2013 at 4:51 pm #

    I find your web site from a friend; she sent it to me so we could share; I have it come
    every day now and depend on it to teach me. Thank you for your ministery and obidence
    to your calling.
    Pat H.

  4. Nancy Beneteau January 16, 2013 at 5:15 pm #

    I’m yellow and purple grateful for my cozy house, being able to work at home doing the best job in the world(Daycare), my family. Yellow for the warming sun and always cheers me up and I’ve always loved purple and now it reminds me of Jesus for some reason.
    I’m grey grumpy for my never ending financial mess and my husband who doesn’t the need for change. When I think of grey I think of clouds and fog which is usually what I feel I’m in when I am grumpy.

  5. Michelle January 16, 2013 at 5:15 pm #

    I’m YELLOW for grateful or I’m PURPLE for grumpy. God’s got my # today, I just spent an hour with him uloading what I have perceived to be MY PROBLEMS asking him to by my Mr. Fix It! Please pray for me as I MAKE A STAND & DECLARE THAT THE JOY OF THE LORD IS MY STRENGTH & there is no problem that Father God cannot solve! Amen & Amen!!

  6. crystal calhoun January 16, 2013 at 6:17 pm #

    This is very nice i like to come on your site to read i am day by day walking by faith and not by the site of things. God bless your wonderful site.

  7. Carolyn January 17, 2013 at 1:31 am #

    I am yellow for cheerful and grateful that I have better health now. I’m grateful that I have had the energy to paint the interior of my home!!!

    I am grateful that you are a light in a world of darkness! I am grateful that we live in the USA, even when others are complaining about the Obama care. Even with all our problems, we are still the most blessed people of the universe!!!

  8. Felicia Prince January 17, 2013 at 7:43 pm #

    I am radiant… A stunning purple with glimmers of gold dust when I am grateful…
    So dull and grey when I am ungrateful.

  9. Rita January 18, 2013 at 8:25 am #

    Thanks for the lovely msg. I am yellow for grateful – bright and full of life and black for grumpy

  10. tami January 18, 2013 at 6:43 pm #

    Your friend Margret sounds like me. I have two sisters liike that. I love them & want to keep in touch. We are not 20 anymore. But, not only are they very negative, but not christian. They sometimes talk down me praying, etc. How do i deal with them? Any advice from you or Margret would be sooooooo welcome. God bless.

  11. Suzanne January 21, 2013 at 3:15 pm #

    I am doing the rubber band thing today!!!

  12. Deb January 21, 2013 at 7:55 pm #

    I am eternally grateful for my salvation and my wonderful, supportive husband. Thank you, Lord.

  13. grace January 22, 2013 at 2:38 pm #

    Thank you Sharon for sharing this series about ingratitude .. I wonder if you have ideas on how we can apply what we read and share this with our children – I think they need to learn in early yrs how to be thankful and have a grateful attitude. I shared your thoughts with my son but I wonder if you have a better ideas/suggestions/books that I can read and do this daily with my son. Thank you again for pointing our minds and focus back to Jesus!

  14. Liz January 28, 2013 at 12:33 am #

    I am red for grateful, red is the color of life, full of vitality,
    any color red brightens my day. Grey is dull and lacks color-grim and creepy

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