Changing the Ending to Your Story

My friend Bonnie and I followed the GPS along winding back roads of Lancaster, Pennsylvania. I had been speaking at an event in the area, and felt drawn to this place I’d come to know as Amish Grace.

Horse-drawn buggies with bearded drivers clippitty-clopped in front of us as if it were just another day. My stomach churned wondering what we would find. Months before, a shooting had occurred in the one-room Amish schoolhouse in a small community called Nickel Mines.


Never did we imagine that these words would appear together. But the unimaginable turned real on October 2, 2006, when Charles Carl Roberts IV parked his truck outside an Amish schoolhouse, and carried his guns and his rage into a room of unsuspecting children.

Charles Roberts was a thirty-two-year-old dairy truck driver in Lancaster. He and his wife, Amy, along with their three young children attended church regularly. Nine years prior to the shooting, their firstborn, a daughter, died twenty minutes after birth.

But rather then let go of the pain, he took hold of the bitterness and held it close. Even though they subsequently had three other children, Charles clung to the anger, held on to his bitterness, and became a ticking time bomb.

In a phone call to his wife, he left a message that said, “I’m angry at God and I need to punish some Christian girls to get even with Him.”

Bitterness, hate, and revenge, became a pit in which Charles Roberts chose to live. For nine years the need for revenge festered until his well thought out plan erupted into violence, death, and great loss.

On a crisp fall day, Charles Roberts parked his pickup truck outside the schoolhouse, waited until the children came in from recess, and then entered armed with a .9mm handgun, a 12-guage shotgun, a 30–06 rifle, a stun gun and six hundred rounds of ammunition.

He ordered the teacher, a handful of visiting adults, and sixteen boys to leave. Then he commanded the remaining ten girls, ages six to thirteen, to line up along the chalkboard. He shot them in the head. Five died. Five lay in critical condition. He then turned the gun on himself.

As a mom, it doesn’t get any worse than this. I can barely stand to type the words. My eyes burn. My heart hurts.

But I write of this story for two reasons. One, to show the great extent to which bitterness can ruin a life when we won’t let go. Two, to show the great extent to which forgiveness can heal when we do.

What happened after the shooting shocked the world.

The Amish community quickly realized that Robert’s widow and children were also victims of the shooting. They had lost a husband, a father, and their privacy. They also had to bear the shame of what their family member had done to innocent children and their families.

Within hours of the shootings, a group from the Amish community showed up at the Roberts house with compassion that defied human logic. They brought condolences, food, and most importantly, they brought forgiveness. That same evening, several miles away, another Amish man from their community went to see the killer’s father. He held the retired policeman in his arms and offered words of comfort and compassion.

Perhaps the most dramatic display of grace occurred at the killer’s funeral when thirty-five to forty Amish crested the hill of the cemetery to mourn with the family. The funeral director recalled the moving moment:

“I was lucky enough to be at the cemetery when the Amish families of the children who had been killed came to greet Amy Roberts and offer their forgiveness. And that is something I’ll never forget, not ever. I knew that I was witnessing a miracle.”

And he was.

Forgiveness is always a miracle. It changed the story line coming out of Nickel Mines. Instead of the Nickel Mines tragedy, media outlets began to speak of the Nickel Mines miracle. The extraordinary display of forgiveness did not lessen the horror of what happened within those four walls of the schoolhouse, but grace eclipsed the story of the slaughter. As the authors of the book Amish Grace explained, “Journalists found themselves reporting a story that they had not set out to cover.”

And isn’t that what the cross is all about? Jesus, an innocent man murdered on a cruel Roman cross. Jesus, who forgave His killers and rose again to forgive again to tell them so. Jesus—who forgives you and me and gives us life.

The cross—a symbol of gruesome execution transformed into a symbol of mercy and grace.

Amish grace changed the storyline of Nickel Mines. God’s forgiving grace changed the storyline of Genesis chapter three and the great fall. And extending grace can change the storyline of your life as well.

Forgiveness allows you to break free of the hindrance of bitterness, move forward in grace, and live bold for God.

Are you ready to change the ending to a story in your life? If so, leave a comment and say, “I’m ready!”


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25 Responses to Changing the Ending to Your Story

  1. Tracy March 29, 2016 at 4:41 am #

    I’m ready

  2. Terri March 29, 2016 at 5:29 am #

    I am ready

  3. Sherry Hoppe March 29, 2016 at 7:16 am #

    Sharon, this article was such a great way to start my day. My mind was flooded with hurting people I know and love who are clinging to the hurt and anger of the past and need to let go and let God deliver His love and grace into their life. Thank you for writing this as I’ll be passing it forward to many others.
    Have a blessed day.

  4. Karen March 29, 2016 at 7:17 am #

    I’m Ready!!

  5. Lisa Henson March 29, 2016 at 8:27 am #

    I’m so so ready! This story makes my heart leap for the power of God’s forgiveness is unlimited and life giving.

  6. Michelle March 29, 2016 at 12:17 pm #

    I’m ready!!

  7. Tammie Puckett March 29, 2016 at 12:35 pm #

    I’m ready! What a powerful post today! Thank you so much!

  8. Janice March 29, 2016 at 12:36 pm #

    I’m READY!!!

  9. Yvonne March 29, 2016 at 12:42 pm #

    Forgiveness as mentioned in the above story is beyond anything imaginable. Only the Lord can help you see the hurt of those who have hurt you immensely. Forgiveness is always an option and really the only way your heart can heal. Healing is a choice. Help me Lord to yield to your Spirit by saying yes I’m ready to offer forgiveness to my offenders. In turn please give me the grace to ask for forgiveness. The Grace Card is a movie which depicts forgiveness. Amish Grace reminds me of this movie. Thanks for sharing Sharon.

  10. Carol Catto March 29, 2016 at 12:53 pm #

    I’m ready

  11. Sydney Love March 29, 2016 at 1:11 pm #

    I am ready! It will make all the difference in the world and in our story!

  12. Beverly March 29, 2016 at 1:46 pm #

    I’ve done this several times. I just want to renew my vow and say I’m ready.

  13. Valerie March 29, 2016 at 2:50 pm #

    I’m ready!!

  14. Sheri Stowers-Copeland March 29, 2016 at 3:22 pm #

    I’m ready! xoxoxoox

  15. Dee Russell March 29, 2016 at 4:51 pm #

    Dee Russell

    I’m ready!

  16. Rhonda March 29, 2016 at 7:25 pm #

    I’m ready.

  17. Pamela Burke March 29, 2016 at 10:00 pm #

    I’m ready!

  18. Kim Williams March 31, 2016 at 9:39 am #

    I preordered Sharon’s new book and tried to get the free download but haven’t gotten it. Am I doing something wrong.

  19. Ralph April 2, 2016 at 8:46 pm #

    I’m Ready!

  20. Veda Ducasse April 3, 2016 at 6:21 pm #

    I am ready

  21. Meshiel Christian April 18, 2016 at 9:57 pm #

    I’m ready!

  22. Kathi Wade June 27, 2016 at 4:17 pm #

    I’m ready Papa God???
    Amen and Amen???

  23. Mercy Ugwu August 30, 2016 at 6:09 pm #

    Am ready

  24. Julie Daley March 29, 2017 at 10:01 am #

    I’m ready!

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