If there’s one thing I know it’s this: The measuring stick will get you stuck! Click & Tweet! Comparison is the devil’s tool that has kept many of us gals from stepping into our God-given destinies…and it’s time to stop!
You know I’ve been camping out with Moses by the burning bush for over a year while writing Take Hold of the Faith You Long For. When we meet up with Moses in Exodus chapter 3, he is an insecure, stuttering, recluse. He argues with God, tells Him that he is not a good speaker, and strongly suggests He picks someone else for the job of delivering the Hebrews from slavery.
But, Moses hadn’t always been so insecure. Look what Stephen said to the Sanhedrin: “Moses was educated in all the wisdom of the Egyptians and was powerful in speech and actions” (Acts 7:22). He was powerful in speech? That’s what The Book says.
So what happened? Moses failed and bailed and ran away to Midian.
Thought he deserved to be there.
Got stuck there.
He forgot his pre-ordained preparation and his God-given ability.
Oh, I wish I were sitting right there with you and we could just chat and throw around ideas. For now, I’ll just ask you this question and maybe one day we’ll sit and talk long.
How do you think that Moses came up with the idea that he was not a good speaker?
Here’s what I think. I think that Moses came up with the idea by comparing himself to other people he thought were good speakers.
Comparison puts up roadblocks along the path to fulfilling our God-given calling by setting an undefined standard of approval and acceptance.
We fear the REJECT stamp will come crashing down with wet ink that mars all of life.
We fear that we are perhaps fatally flawed as confidence seeps through the holes of insecurity punctured and punctuated by comparison.
We compare our abilities to someone else’s and come to this conclusion: I could never do it like she does it. And you know what? You were never meant to!
God doesn’t need two people just alike. He has uniquely and precisely created you with specific gifts and talents to do exactly what He has called you to do. So get good at being you!
David wrote: “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well (Ps. 139: 13, 14 emphasis added).
He knew what full well? In these particular verses, David wasn’t praising God for the way He flung the stars in the night sky, set the spinning earth on its axis, or stocked the oceans with sea creatures of every kind. David was marveling at the magnificent masterpiece called David. Me. You. He knew that full well.
You are God’s workmanship. His masterpiece—Woman was His grand finale of all creation. Do you know that full well?
Paul wrote to the Galatians, “Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life” (Gal. 6:4–5, MSG).
Listen; if God didn’t put it in you, then you don’t need it to do what He has called you to do.
- If God didn’t make you eloquent, then you don’t need to be eloquent to do what He’s prepared for you to do.
- If God didn’t make you a good speller, then you don’t need to be a good speller to do what He’s prepared for you to do.
- If God didn’t place you in a home where you were the apple of your daddy’s eye, then you don’t need to be the apple of your daddy’s eye to be all God wants you to be and do all He has planned for you to do.
One pastor said: “One of the main reasons we struggle with insecurity is that we’re comparing our behind-the-scenes with everybody else’s highlight reel.”
I always promise to show you the film on the cutting room floor. See, I cut them out, but God picked them back up, brushed them off, and inserted them back into the reel. “These are some of my favorites,” He explained. “The scenes you would rather no one see are the very ones that will help women see Me.”
And it’s the same ways with you. Don’t hide those parts or sweep them under the rug. God will used them in ways you could never imagine.
God knows your inadequacies and your insecurities. He knows what caused them and who caused them. He saw you before you even had them.
Yet He chose you before you were born for a purpose—to fulfill a plan in a predetermined point in time (Acts 17:26).
It’s time to let go of comparing ourselves to others and take hold of our uniqueness crafted by God.
God made you to be you! And He thinks you’re amazing!