Comparison Kills Confidence…Don’t Do It

Sharon JaynesConfidence in Christ, Living Fully, Take Hold of the Faith You Long For 163 Comments

If there’s one thing I know it’s this: the measuring stick will get you stuck! Comparison is the devil’s tool that has kept many of us gals from stepping into our God-given destinies…and it’s time to stop!

I hung out with Moses by the burning bush for about a year, and he taught me a lot about how to get back your confidence.

When I met up with him in Exodus chapter 3, he was an insecure, stuttering recluse. He argues with God, tells Him that he is not a good speaker, and strongly suggests He picks someone else for the job of delivering the Hebrews from slavery.

But, Moses hadn’t always been so insecure. Look what Stephen said to the Sanhedrin: “Moses was educated in all the wisdom of the Egyptians and was powerful in speech and actions” (Acts 7:22).

He was powerful in speech? That’s what The Book says.

So what happened? Moses failed and bailed and ran away to Midian. Thought he deserved to be there. Got stuck there. Moses forgot his pre-ordained preparation and his God-given ability.

Oh, I wish I were sitting right there with you and we could just chat and throw around ideas. For now, I’ll just ask you this question and maybe one day we’ll sit and talk long.

How do you think that Moses came up with the idea that he was not a good speaker? Here’s what I think. I think that Moses came up with the idea by comparing himself to other people he thought were good speakers.

It’s the same way with you and me.

Comparison opens the door for sabotaging lies to steal our confidence, stymie our courage, and stand in the way of our contentment.

Comparison puts up roadblocks along the path to fulfilling our God-given calling by setting an undefined standard of approval and acceptance.

We fear the REJECT stamp will come crashing down with wet ink that mars all of life.

We fear that we are perhaps fatally flawed as confidence seeps through the holes of insecurity punctured and punctuated by comparison.

We compare our abilities to someone else’s and come to this conclusion: I could never do it like she does it. And you know what? You were never meant to! God doesn’t need two people just alike. He has uniquely and precisely created you with specific gifts and talents to do exactly what He has called you to do.

So get good at being you!

David wrote: “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well (Ps. 139: 13, 14 emphasis added). He knew what full well? In these particular verses, David wasn’t praising God for the way He flung the stars in the night sky, set the spinning earth on its axis, or stocked the oceans with sea creatures of every kind. David was marveling at the magnificent masterpiece called David. Me. You. He knew that full well.

You are God’s workmanship. His masterpiece—His grand finale of all creation.

Do you know that full well? You are amazing!

Leave a comment and say, “I’m amazing and I know that full well” or tell one of your amazing characteristics.  I’ll pick one winner to receive a FREE copy of Take Hold of the Faith You Long For: Let Go. Move Forward. Live Bold



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Comments 163

    1. I’m amazing and I know that full well. I am patient, kind, nurturing and strong because of what I have been through the past 4 years. This article is just what I needed today and so very true!

  1. So Amazing last night I felt so deflated and lesser than, this morning I got a pray from a friend, then I got today’s words from Sharon. I KNOW MY GOD LOVED ME AND IS LETTING ME KNOW FROM THE WORDS I HAVE BEEN GIVEN THIS MORNING.

  2. I am amazing,, blessed and highly favored by my Lord and Savior Jesus. I was (retired now) but while serving in the U.S. Navy, I was highly organized and kept excellent inventory records on 23 F14D jets. Selected as Sailor of the year 1993! This has to be a God given talent as I was before that a hairdresser and new nothing about paperwork, much less aircraft. So organization is a characteristic He taught me through my military service which serves me well on in the world.

    1. amen!!!!!!!!!!!!! thank you for serving!!!!!!!!!! congrats on all of your hard work love you honor God and give him credit! there you go. May God continue to bless you. xoxo

  3. I AM amazing and that I know full well. I see this being played out as I minister to my husband, care and encourage my family while serving the ladies of our fellowship. Satan can buffet but God is more than enough for He is the I AM !

  4. I’m amazing and I know that full well God gave me the voice to sing his praises and lead others into his presence through worship songs. I know full well he filled me with compassion for others and the knowledge and wisdom to care for them when they are at their weakest as a nurse.

  5. I’m amazing and I know that full well!! Even if I shake rattle and roll I do it with a smile!! I’m one of God’s beloved no matter what disease I have!!!

  6. It’s not an amazing characteristic, but my laugh is unique to say the least. When I laugh people around me start laughing. It’s one of those things i am still accepting about myself.

  7. I know that God has a plan for me! I am amazing at my job working with Autistic children for the last 18 years! ❤️🙏

  8. I’m Amazing and so know full well…..I always put others first..I consider everyone’s feelings, and don’t do or say anything to other’s, that I don’t want done or said to me….I am a firm believer in The Golden Rule.

  9. I have a heart for those who have been broken by this world. Though I dont feel amazing I know that the world needs more if us who see the hurt in others

  10. I am amazing at teaching others! Ephesians 2:10 comes to mind after reading this devotional and it reminded me that my confidence is in his plan for me. I’m going to keep running that race and take hold what He has for me. 💃🏽💃🏽

  11. I’m amazing😆 and know that full well😁❤️Wow I’ve never said that about myself before 🤔🙃😁thank you❤️🍃

  12. Hi Sharon, love the verses you shared from Psalm 139 as all my life I have been very shy in speaking BUT GOD sent us on a mission trip back in the late 90’s and asked me to preach a message out in the countryside in Central America is an open-air building with about 30 people. There were 4 of us to share and when it came my turn, the others with me were amazed, I was amazed, that my voice ring out true and clear as I shared the message Father gave me. Nothing is impossible with God and a surrendered vessel. I don’t compare myself with anyone anymore as I know what happens when the Holy Spirit flows! Thank you for this encouragement!

  13. I am amazing! I am friendly and caring. I smile a lot because a smile can make a person’s day happier. I am very blessed by God in too many ways to mention!!!!!!! He is my Rock and my Redeemer!

  14. I’m amazing and I know that full well. It is something I have to be reminded of everyday. Going through a growth opportunity; divorce, early retirement, job search. God is renewing my mind each day, but it has been tough. Unraveled. It’s quite the experience. Thank you Sharon for your faithfullness and wise insights!

  15. I have an amazing passion for teaching. I fell in love with this profession 31 years ago and I still love it today. Started as a third grade teacher, then a fifth grade teacher, then an elementary principal, and now a Professor of Education teaching the future teachers to love it too. That’s one thing I’m good at. 😊👍🏼👩‍🏫

  16. “I’m amazing and full well” thank you for reminding me this. I many times struggle with this thought. today I will keep this on my computer. and maybe for many days to come until I truly get it and don’t need to see it in writing for that day. God bless you Sharon, your words focused on God’s are inspiration to me!!!

  17. I am amazing I know that full well!!💜
    This was just what I needed to read today…I struggle with comparison and also have been struggling with purpose. This has helped with both and helped me understand that passage in a new way. Thank you!!

  18. I’m amazing and I know that full well! One of my amazing characteristics is that I’m a giving person. I’m not selfish, and love to help others, especially homeless people. They have a special place in my heart. Thank you, God for this gift.

  19. Thank you for this much needed reminder! I’m sending your post to my daughter. As she prepares to graduate from college, and is trying to figure out the path God has laid for her, she needs this reminder!

    “I’m amazing and I know that full well!” 🙂

  20. I refinish jewelry boxes and make small gifts for people that God, the Holy Spirit guides me to. Good love doing things for people, just to make them feel special. I love this gift that god has given me because it is all him, from knowing who has a need and what to make for them. The inside of the lady jewelry box I made matched the color of the sweater of the “new friend” I had made❤️ My friend pointed out that God is into the details.

  21. Get up and go…. That’s what I have, and it’s kinda unique for a woman to have this characteristic. They are supposed to be home and fearful of the world. Not I. And, my two children always came with me. If I compared my ways to that of other women, I would’ve stifled my gift. I would be a prisoner of my home. Yet, up and about is how I meet my daily purpose.

  22. I am amazing and I know that full well!
    God has give me an amazing gift of relating individually to my patients I am assigned to visit in their homes. I am a RN and before I enter a home I ask God to provide the words, actions, needs of the patient. I am in awe every time as when I leave their home I feel I have left more than medical guidance, I have left knowing The peace of God is with them! Amen! Love my work with God’s people

  23. I know no one is like me ,I discovered this at the age of 9 yrs old ,my 6 sisters and 3 brothers ,told me I prayed too much ,and that I should wait until I was older to have a personal relationship with Jesus ,I rejected that lie ,and here I am 66 yrs old ,and that same God speaks and keep me daily ,in the name of Jesus I am saved ,Iam holy ,Iam sanctified ,been through many trials and tribulations ,and He delivered me out them all, I daily pray with and for others because of who Jesus is in me ,and who Iam in Him ,Iam blessed and highly favored

  24. I know that full well!! I am wonderfully made just as He created me to be. I was blessed to be a compassionate women, even when I don’t feel like it.

  25. I’m amazing and I know that full well! There is no one else created to be just like me. I have my own unique talents, abilities, and assignments given to me directly by my Creator. So why should I think I am any less loved and cherished?

  26. I’m amazing and I know that full well! I am holding on to this truth and praying that God will help me walk in it everyday. I am guilty of falling into the comparison trap and it has almost stopped me from doing things God has told me to do. By God’s grace, not anymore! Thank you for this encouraging reminder!

  27. I AM amazing and I know that full well because God said so!

    I AM uniquely created with a specific destiny for which only I can fulfill. I AM a woman of grace, fatally flawed but forever redeemed. I AM HIS!

  28. I am amazing and know that full well. My special gift from the Lord is being able to follow through processes in my mind without actually seeing them. He has afforded the gift of being able to document details expediently.

  29. I’m amazing and I know that full well! God has given me the gift of design to further HIS kingdom! I am amazed at the things that He creates through me.

  30. I’m amazing and I know that full well.

    Your devotion spurred some thoughts:

    Comparison breeds Insecurity. If I’m feeling insecure, I need to check my thinking for comparison laden thoughts. Another thought that I speak out: I release to God what my life “should” look like and trust that He will get me to where I need to be.

    Thanks for all you do Sharon!

  31. WOW, what timing. I’ve struggled with this even though my adult children would confirm positive attributes of mine – I didn’t see them. I try to really listen to what God is telling me and just recently I have started to feel that yes I am amazing and know that full well because I have listened more intently to HIM. Thank you for your positive messages that go deep . I intend to share this with my teenage grand daughter – thank you

  32. I’m amazing & I know that full well! I love to read powerful self-help books & have a special gift for sharing my enthusiaam with my friends. I often receive exactly what I need by reading just the right thing at just the right moment. I believe I am paying it forward to others when I share! My prayer is that for them – it’s just the right thing at just the right moment. God has planted a dream in my heart & striving to be the best unique version of myself allows his light to SHINE through me.

  33. I am more than blessed! God has given me all the tools needed to do HIS work. I can walk, talk, see, touch, love and more. This is what I need to fulfill my role on earth. Comparison only leads to heart aches and activates negative emotions that lead to sin. I know my Lord has more in store for me when I am in heaven for this reason I praise Him and am happy with what he has given me not what I am missing.

  34. I have been in a pit for over a year, working to stop the negative track that plays 24/7/365 in my head for most if not all of my adult life. Your message was exactly what I needed!!!! May God continue to bless you, your family and this amazing ministry.

  35. I’m amazing and I know that full well!

    Thank you for this timely message. I just stepped into a leadership role in one of the ministries I serve in. My first response when asked to fill this role was I am not a good speaker, I can’t do this. Well, guess what…..But God…..He can!

  36. I am AMAZING and I know that full well. Even at my age, I am still teachable and can be reminded that God made me unique for a special purpose that He has planned for my life.

  37. Wow what a timely word at work feeling myself comparing when feeling I fall short but God designed us to be us and serve in our capacity

  38. I’m amazing and I know this full well, but sometimes I forget too! A lot! I have been told that my smile is very contagious and that I always seem to be smiling when I’m singing in the choir!! I love to make people laugh! I would really like to know how someone can stand in the choir, sing amazing songs about Jesus and NOT smile! I just can’t do it. I hope I am chosen to receive your book; I just love your books! And I love the GIG’s! I make sure I read them everyday! Very inspiring and yet somehow instructing as well. Always come away with some golden nuggets!

  39. I’m amazing and I know that full well! We’re moving to Michigan in the fall and I believe God is calling me to minister to the women there regarding domestic abuse within the church. I feel completely unequipped because I have never led a group or ministered one on one except with my stepdaughter. Please pray for me to remember Who God is, Who I am because of Him and that if God is calling me I have to do this. I’m actually looking forward to hearing some of their stories and sharing mine.

    Thank you,

  40. I have the AMAZING ability to truly love my kids for who they are as individuals. Its a special gift from God that in my family anyway no one seems to possess but me. You can only get the kind of peace & love that washes over your whole soul like that from loving your kids rightly from God, and I know its from Him.

  41. I am amazing and I know that full well! God created me to be His hands and His feet. He equipped me with the right tools to fulfill His will and purpose for my life. Wherever He leads I can be confident knowing I am right where He needs me.

  42. Thank you for your Bible study entry dated 2/21/18. It was just what I needed to read and take to heart today. I have been suffering from illness and terrible pain for the past 3 weeks. And I admit that instead of concentrating on my strengths and gifts from God the pain has caused me to sink deeper and deeper into despair and discouragement. Your words made me realize that I have to rise above my pain and use my talents to the best of my abilities. I have a lot of living and good to do on this side of heaven. Thanks again.

  43. The Lord is so good and so faithful in so many ways and I’m ever so slowly learning that. He has graciously given me the gift of teaching which has led to a 25-year Sunday school class and my second year of leading a ladies Bible study group. I am truly blessed as He continues to use me in these areas and….. learn & grow. My faith falters at times especially when I’m facing difficult times but I remind myself that “He is able” I so enjoy your weekly uplifting messages keep up the good work!

  44. Comparison took my joy and confidence away in my childhood and teenage years. Now that I know who I am in Christ, I’m going to make sure that won’t happen to my kids 🙂

  45. I am adored, I am beautiful, I am loved, I am a perfect masterpiece because I am created in the image of my Heavenly Father. I’m amazing and I know that full well.

  46. I’m amazing and I know that full well. I haven’t always known it and I still fight for this belief everyday on my journey to healing. Today I sobbed and cried a very ugly cry to God and to my husband. So fed up of being stuck and listening to lies. I know God has done so much in my life but I so long for the more that He has. I have to believe it is coming to pass. When I read your article this evening I almost couldn’t believe what I was reading. It was like you were in my living room with me just reading my mail. Then again, I can believe it because the precious Holy Spirit led you to write for me and countless others I’m sure and He led me to see the email to speak directly to me. Thank you for your heart and obedience to Him. ❤️

  47. I am amazing and know that full well!….When I look back over the last 15 years of my life, I can only say…Thank you Lord! If I had known then, that I would be where I am today….I would have said, “No way”! Thank you Lord for your grace and mercy in my life. I am looking forward to what you have in store for me next! I am a will vestal for Christ to use me.

  48. I keep getting up again even though life is tough. I know God is the only answer. Psalms 32 verse 8 and 9
    8The Lord says I will lead you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you. 9 don’t be like the senseless horse or mule who needs a bit and bridle to control them.

  49. Sharon, this message came in the right time I needed most. I was feeling bad for not being able to do a task the right way though I tried wholeheartedly. I was beating myself up wondering why others got it right the first time and not me. I love my job, I know that I’m good at it.I will not allow one setback to put me down coz I’m amazing and I know that fully well.

  50. Thank you for this reminder. I often compare myself and feel inadequate and sad, therefore I need to remember that God made us as unique beings. Thank you, Sharon.

  51. I’m an excelent cook and hostess. I love to prepare food or bring extra baked treats to work for people. I just wish I could do it more often.

  52. I’m amazing and I know full well. I have great strength in the Lord. I have been slacking in reading email but one that I am definitely glad I read this morning. I have that horrible habit of comparing myself to others now and then. By “watching” others, it keeps me from doing what I am I am called to do. It doesn’t matter if others think that I’m doing it all wrong. As long as I follow God’s instruction it will be exactly as He wants it. Be blessed!

  53. I am amazing, unique and special. I am God’s greatest creation and I know that fully well. When God is with me , who can be against me. He boots up my confidence to live my purpose on this earth.

  54. I just got back from a great visit to my biological father and family, I have an awful time comparing myself to my younger sister who doesn’t know the Lord and seems to have it all together then I am reminded that God has Blessed me with my wonderful husband and 3 children whom I have had the privilege of being home with them!!My compassion for the hurting is the way God made me and opened the door for me to pursue my biblical counseling degree!!

  55. Timely and felt lead to open this email at a time where I am finally open to listening to God’s next steps and plan for me…without fear and comparison. Relying on Him and His purpose for me…as I already am. A special and humbled thank yoy.

  56. I want to begin a true relationship with Jesus Christ. Do you have a book to help me start my journey? Thank you for all you do. Be blessed.

  57. I want to have a true relationship with Jesus Christ. Do you have a book to help me start my journey? Thank you for all you do. Be blessed.

  58. Greetings in Jesus’ Name! Yes, thank you for this reminder. I do play that comparison game, even at 61 years of age. I love to sing and almost always have a song in my heart, for which I am very thankful.

  59. I am amazing and I know that full well! God has instilled in me the ability and heart to walk in other peoples shoes, to see where they been, so I can understand them and love them where they are at now.

  60. I am amazing and I know that full well! God has walked me through so much and I’ve learn so more about his love and his plan for me. I am uniquely made and embracing it more confidently each day!

  61. All my life I have compared myself to others and still do but I’m asking God to let me see me how He sees me. Great message.. Thanks

  62. I’m amazing and I know that full well….
    Honestly, I will have to keep telling myself that over and over again. I’m not quite there yet…but working on it! I do know full well, that Jesus thinks I’m amazing, and will never give up on me! 🙂

  63. This devotion was absolutely awesome. I can’t even count the number of times I have gotten in my own way by comparing myself to someone else. Comparing can lead to coveting, which is a bigger roadblock. I’M AMAZING AND I KNOW THAT FULL WELL.

  64. I can’t believe that this is the Word God gave me today! I just came through a spiritual battle over this last night. God truly uses your ministry to talk to my heart and He wants me to know that I am amazing and to honestly say and believe that I know that full well!
    Thank you for answering His call and blessing all of the precious women that God has led to you. There are so many comments, that’s incredible!!

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