Hurray! It’s Friday and time for the Friday Friend giveaway. Today, my guest is Crystal Hurst. She’s an amazing wife, mother, and friend. You just might know her dad, Tony Evans. Chrystal is carrying on her family tradition of loving Jesus and telling others all around the world about the One who set her free. Let’s lean in as Chrystal encourages us from her her book, She’s Still There.
My college-aged daughter called me to ask for my advice. She had a major decision to make and wanted me to lend my ear and my thoughts. As I listened to her explain her dilemma and share the pros and cons of the decisions before her, I realized in either case that her choice was not an issue of morality, black and white or right and wrong but more of a preference. This decision involved knowing what she wanted and would carry major implications regarding the direction of her life moving forward. She just wasn’t sure which direction she wanted to go.
When my daughter asked for help with making her decision, I answered her — offering her a piece of advice she didn’t expect.
I asked her when she’d felt most closely connected to the best of the girl inside. I asked her to tell me when she felt as if she was honoring her God-given design. I asked her to think about the last time she looked at her life with expectation and anticipation.
She took a few seconds to ponder my question – a question that didn’t seem connected with getting an answer at all. But after a few seconds she was able to answer. She gave me a time two years before. A time that she was about to graduate from high school. She was excited about the next stage of her life and was aware of what she might want out of her journey.
Glad that she had been able to pinpoint a particular time in response to my query, I then told her to present the decision she needed to make to that girl — the girl that had high hopes for her life and that had a handle on what she expected to get out of life.
It took my daughter a minute to follow my slightly ethereal and non-tangible question, but after awhile it dawned on her what I was asking her to do.
Simply put, how do you best honor the life of the girl in you? Click & Tweet! The life that only you can live.
Because sometimes life unfolds and things get more complicated than they should.
The longer we live, we learn to do what makes sense, what seems safe, and what seems reasonable. We learn to stick with what is acceptable. We learn to color inside the lines even if coloring outside of the lines is what thrills us down to the core of who we are.
If we are not careful, we will reason ourselves right out of wonderful opportunities to express the unique gifts, abilities, interests, passions, and personal nature of the girl inside. We learn to silence her. We build her life around the values of other people, familiar places, or super-sensible plans.
And we forget to take a chance on her – the girl who would really love to live out her unique God-given presence in a unique God-given way.
I asked my daughter to pray and ask God to speak to her heart and to let her know if there was a way that was His way for her. And then I told her that if the decision was only a matter of choice — of picking a direction and moving forward — that she should take some time and listen to the girl in her.
She needed to take time to hear what that girl wanted, needed, or desired.
This world is a noisy place. It takes intentional effort to hear the cries of our hearts. Then it takes courage and bravery to honor the girl who utters them.
While I don’t remember what that particular decision was or what her choice ended up being, I do remember that she took the time to listen to the girl inside. And when she called to tell me her decision, she was sure.
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What’s a woman to do if her life is not taking shape the way that she thought that it would? What happens when she looks at herself in the mirror, lingering just a little longer than usual and realizes that she no longer recognizes the person staring back at her? What does she do when she sees that, somehow, her life has drifted away from all her original hopes, dreams, or plans?
Speaker, blogger and writer Chrystal Evans Hurst wrote this book because she was that woman. One day she realized that she had somehow wandered away from the life that she had purposed to live a long time ago.
Chrystal uses her poignant story of an early and unexpected pregnancy, as well as other raw and vulnerable moments in her life, to let readers know she understands what it’s like to try and find your way after some missteps or decisions you didn’t plan on. In She’s Still There Chrystal emphasizes the importance of the personal process and the beauty of that path as it is shared authentically from one girlfriend to another. It’s a book of “me toos”, reminders of the hoped for, and challenges for the path ahead—to find direction, purpose, and true satisfaction.