Stepping Out of God’s Way

Sharon JaynesGod's love, Listening to God, Motherhood, Perspective, Prayer/Spiritual Warfare, Trusting God, Uncategorized 357 Comments

He ironed. I watched.

I stood in the door frame of my guest room, watching my nephew Jonathan iron the wrinkles out of his crumpled shirt and the creases out of his crumpled heart. He’d stopped by for a visit on his way to a wedding in my hometown, and his clothes were a mess. He ironed and talked. I watched and listened.

Life hadn’t been easy for Jonathan. While he had an adoring, godly mother and two amazing siblings, the absence of a father left a lingering ache that’s been hard to heal. Their dad’s abandonment affected each of kids differently, but Jonathan, the youngest, had struggled the most.

I’d always known God had a special plan for Jonathan. The shaping and molding by God has been fierce, intentional and deliberate. But today, he ironed.

I plugged the iron in the outlet, leaned against the doorframe, and watched.

As Jonathan moved the iron back and forth across the wrinkled fabric, he ironed out much more than a shirt. He ironed out the wrinkles in his heart, pressed out the pain of life without a dad, smoothed out the hurt of abandonment, and steamed out the stubborn creases of years of questions. Why did dad leave? Why wasn’t I worth sticking around for? Why wasn’t I worth the effort? Why was I more affected by the abandonment than my siblings?

He ironed.

He pressed.

He talked.

I watched.

I listened.

I prayed.

When we see someone going through a struggle, especially our children, the natural instinct is to jump and try to fix it. But what if that struggle is the very thing God is using to grow them, to strengthen them, to build their character. If that’s the case, then our interference may stunt their spiritual growth.

James wrote: Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing” (James 1:2-4 NLT).

So let it grow. And we must let it grow in other people too. Perhaps we’ve stepped in where we should have stepped out. Friend, we were never meant to try to fix what only God can fully restore.

Sometimes the wisest thing we can do is step out of God’s way and let Him work. Our role is to pray for God to do what only God can do.

Twenty minutes later, Jonathan finished ironing. One shirt. One heart.

“God has done so much for me and in me,” he explained. “It has taken a long time, but He is healing me. He is mending my heart. I’m ready to move on now. More than my dad coming home to me, I pray that he will come home to Jesus. That’s what I want more than anything.”

You know, I could have said, “Hey, let me just iron that shirt for you.” I could have finished the job in two minutes or less. But this was not about ironing a shirt. This was about pressing out the rumpled creases in a young man’s heart. I couldn’t do that. Only God could. Jonathan needed to hold the iron of God’s love and move it back-and-forth, back-and-forth until the rumpled mess was smoothed. My job was to watch. To listen. To pray.

How about you? Is there someone in your life that has a wrinkled wounded heart? Have you yanked the healing tool of God’s love out of His hand and tried to iron out his or her problems yourself? Did you ever consider that you might be standing in the way of what God is trying to do? I say this only because I have…many times.

Jonathan wears his mending heart well. That doesn’t mean that it won’t need a touch up pressing when daily life ruffles up the fabric of his heart from time to time. But I have every confidence that God who began a good work in him will complete it. (See Philippians 1:6)

And the shirt? It looked pretty good.

Is there a person who you’ve been trying to fix that you need to hand over to God? Leave their first name or initials in the comments section as declaration!

Dear Lord, forgive me for trying to fix other people’s problems when they are not mine to fix. Today, I’m committing to watch, to listen, to pray, and to love. Help me not to get in Your way of what You are doing in someone else’s life. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Digging Deeper

As a mom or a grandmother, the best thing we can do for our children and grandchildren is pray! But sometimes it’s hard to know exactly what to pray. Here’s some good news, when we pray the Word of God, we pray the Will of God. Praying for Your Child from Head to Toe is a 30-Day Guide to powerful and effective Scripture-based prayer. Starting at the head and the thoughts they think, to the mouth and the words they speak, all the way down to their feet and the path they take, this book covers 16 areas of a child’s life for 30 days. It’s not a one-time-read, but a book you’ll refer to time and time again. Here’s just a sample:

 

The Mind: What He/She Thinks About

You will keep in perfect peace whose mind is stays on you, because he trust in you.  Isaiah 26:3 ESV

Dear Lord, I pray my child’s mind will stay on You today and be at peace—that his/her thoughts will not be tangled up in troubles, but calm in holy confidence. May he/she know You are in control and have his/her best interest at heart.

 The Eyes: What He/She Looks At

When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. Genesis 3:6 

I pray my child will not be tempted to sin by what is pleasing to the eye, but strong to resist the lure of the enemy.

The Ears : Who and What He/She Listens To

You have declared this day that the LORD is your God and that you will walk in obedience to him, that you will keep his decrees, commands and laws – that you will listen to him. Deuteronomy 26:17

I pray my child will declare this day that the LORD is his/her God and walk in obedience to Him. I pray he/she will listen to Your voice speaking to his/her heart—that he/she will turn away from any voices of this world, the flesh or the devil and turn toward voices that are consistent with Your teaching and Your Word.

 

 

 




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  1. Yes and amen. For my children, Isabella and Andres Anzola. May God do the work in them and may I get out of the way. Thank you for writing this. I needed it!

    1. God’s perfect timing! Reading Sharon’s devotion was the perfect reminder that my job as a Mom to adult kids is not to try to fix their problems. Let go, and let God. Only God! Please Lord keep working in the lives of my sons, Scott and Stephen. Amen

  2. Amen. This is a great reminder to be specific in praying.For my grown kids and for my grands. Thank you for the tips encouraging us to pray God’s own Words in our desire to see our children and grands “walk in truth” and enjoy the constant, reliable, wonderful fellowship we experience walking with Jesus.

    1. Rikki Faye
      Thank you God for loving your children and rescuing them from this broken world. You have a good plan & you never break your covenants! I am excited to live in that goodness with my daughter. In Jesus precious name, I faithfully and gratefully pray this prayer, Amen!

  3. God I am leaving these intials for you. Please forgive me if I have gotten in the way.

    VH
    NH
    JH
    TH

    Only you can heal them. I am handing it all over to you.

    1. Letting go and letting God fix what needs to be fixed
      My children
      Bk kk jk
      My grandchildren
      Jm nm mk gk sk fk

      Thank you Jesud

      1. I’m stepping out of God’s way today so that he can fix what needs to be fixed in EW, KW, and BW’s hearts and lives. I will continue to pray, listen, and watch…

  4. My son. J. Has a beautiful wife and 2 young children. Recently lost his job. Praying God will use this to lead him back to Him first and foremost. And to a job that’’s perfect for him. God has given me the opportunity to share scripture and pray with him. May J see his need for Jesus and turn to Him for wisdom and direction. Pray his dad and I will not try to fix their situation financially but allow God to move mightliy. They live in Charlotte NC.

  5. My son. J. Has a beautiful wife and 2 young children. Recently lost his job. Praying God will use this to lead him back to Him first and foremost. And to a job that’’s perfect for him. God has given me the opportunity to share scripture and pray with him. May J see his need for Jesus and turn to Him for wisdom and direction. Pray his dad and I will not try to fix their situation financially but allow God to move mightily. They live in Charlotte NC.

  6. I need to let God be the one who changes J.T.C. I have been praying for years. I know God is working but J.T,C doesn’t yield. Please pray with me.

  7. Lord I put my son Kaden before you. Hold his mind God and keep him near you until he is healed from the wounds of an absent father. Let him receive and believe all that you have in store for him. In Jesus name I pray amen

  8. This is on time mf is in need of healing and I can’t do anything I’m in the way and getting abused in the meantime this post is giving me the freedom and courage to step aside and let God deal with it because I cant.

  9. Jonathan’s story kind of reminds me of what my son, Joshua, is going through. Only his father passed away before he had a chance to know Him. He’s struggling right now and it’s hard for me to not try and fix things. I realize I can’t fix what only God can. And I’m trying to stay out of His way. Would you keep my son in your prayers and I will add Jonathan to my prayer list. Thank you and God bless you all. 🙏🏿

  10. Sharon,

    Thank you for the reminder that I can let go and let God do his work, my job is to pray and trust!

    Lisa

  11. Loved this! Lots of truth here. As a mom, it’s hard to recognize when to step back sometimes. Thank you for the reminder that God is good all the time and He knows exactly how to meet everyone’s needs. I think I will try to pray more before having knee jerk reactions and jumping in. I’ll have knee jerk prayers instead haha 🙂

  12. Please pray for my daughter Lorrin. She has been struggling with physical pain for the past 13 years. Once a healthy strong young lady now suffers daily with physical and emotional pain causing her to have turned to anorexia as a control method further harming her physical body. Please pray that God will have mercy on her and touch her with His mighty healing Hand. In Jesus’s name. Amen. Thank You

  13. Please pray for my grandson JM and his father RM, for them to be filled with the Holy Spirit and to desire to walk with God. May God heal their minds. Amen

  14. I had to learn this lesson and am still learning. My youngest daughter is the one that I have to constantly keep my hands out of the way. When I do, I see the lord moving in her life.
    I need prayer also for myself, it seems as I get older, I struggle more when trials come my way. My life went through a massive change and still going through changes. Loss of job, needing to move. I know he has me but there are times doubt overwhelms my heart.

  15. What a wonderful message! I too often step in when I need to watch God work. Sometimes hard to resist that “rescue” mode. Thanks for your commitment to these newsletters.

  16. Cj. My daughter. Her X messed her up , married less than a year, pays no child support (yet, 12 years)
    Wyatt my grandson , hates his dad, but misses not having a dad.
    Nic (my son. Married my other son’s X, and hasn’t spoken to me for over 3 years, and destroyed the family relationships.
    Kary , his wife.

  17. Rs.
    A friend
    After years of watching the struggle and longing to help, I’m finally willing to let go and let God
    the problem is suddenly I no longer want to be a part of it.

    Is it The hurt of rejection
    Is it The ache of seeing the fight and suffering and them not giving up to God

    Would you pray for me?

  18. Shayne. S S. This is who I am trying to fix but today I put him in the hands of God to fix. God is in control. I love you God. Amen

  19. Thank you for the reminder. Yahweh I leave R. Knight, K. Wilson, A.Knight and L.Wilson in your hands. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth amen 🙏🏾

  20. I’ve placed my sons, Jordan and Seth, in God’s hands. I realized I was getting in the way, even if unintentionally. While I may not understand or like how God has been moving me aside, I know that my way isn’t what will save them. Their redemption can only come through Jesus and the Father. Over this past month, I’ve come to accept that truth. Thank you for this article—it truly confirms what God has been showing me.

  21. Sharon, Wow!! I am so thrilled for your nephew Jonathan. God is doing something for him. I can relate to his testimony. I am adopted. My mother was having issues and my real dad abandoned me. I could never understand why but recently I had the opportunity to speak with him. He said he was in the hospital with a severe medical issue and the pipes burst in his house. As I intently listed to him I was not angry but I had a peace that I did not know what was there. Like Jonathan, God is teaching and helping me grow. That though he was not in my life God is present and has a wonderful life for me. Congrats Jonathan, Let God do His work in you. You are going to be amazed.

  22. Pray for Gods’s will in my son, Joseph’s life, especially a meaningful job and relationship. Praise be to God! Amen

  23. Please pray for D. Austin. He is having such a hard time reading his Bible & living everyday. I told him he needed a personal intimate relationship with God. He wrestles with his past & has intense battles. I told him he has to fight enemy with the Word of God. Pray for me to step back & only say what God wants me too. Thank you

  24. I pray for my children, that they will open their heart to to God. Frankie, Nicora, John, Takisha, Katrina, LaWanda, and Jami. I ask this in Jesus Name. Amen

  25. KF, BF, BF, PF, PS, KM, JM, MS
    Thank you for this message. I pray my children and grandchildren will all turn to you and follow your wisdom.

  26. Please pray for Jayden and JaShawn that they will seek the Lord and hunger for the Word of the Lord. Pray for my daughter as well, MW that she continues to ask the Lord for direction on her life journey. Cover my granddaughter Serenity. Thank you!!

  27. In Jesus name amen, Dejuan, Latrell, Jacobi, Tyrik, Jazzlyn, and Arianna, I step aside and let God do the work on them.

  28. My son Andy who is approaching his one year sobriety at a year program for alcohol addiction and beginning to look for a job and re enter a daily life of real world challenges.
    I know i have swooped in too many times over the years and I am daily turning him over to God.
    Please pray for him.
    Thank you
    Alice

  29. Thank you Sharon!
    My son JK…drug addiction for 42 yrs
    Just found out this morning that he is in jail for a narcotics possession chg…
    He has a 8 yr old daughter (who my heart is breaking for)…she loves her daddy so much… he’s been down that road so many times…very sad
    Please pray for our family!🙏
    Thank you
    God bless you all!

  30. Praying for great-grands, RE and EE and for their parents who need to come to know Him on an intimate and personal level so they can then also pray for the kids, knowing only He, our Lord and Savior, can do mighty things in ALL their lives! Praying for the many listed in all the comments below. He knows each and every heart ache and knows ALL the pain and suffering for each and every one of us! This devotional spoke to me also as I have gone through the loss of my husband recently and I have to pray each and every day reminding Him and myself that I know He is in control and I need to step out, and stay out of His way!

  31. Amen!
    MA
    MA
    MA
    MA
    Lord forgive me if I’m trying to fix and heal there precious hearts. Only you are able to do that. In Jesus Name, Amen 🙏🕊️❤️

  32. So powerful!! Thank you for this!! We as parents…even those of us with adult children…need that reminder that God gave them to us to borrow for awhile. To nurture and love but HE is always in control…we are not!🙏🏻🙏🏻

    Continuing to pray for Gods amazing peace to fill my heart and for wisdom to know when to let go and let God! My son is always in Gods sight and I have no need to worry or attempt to take the wheel! Thank you God!🙏🏻❤️

  33. Please pray for reconciliation with 2 of my 3 children. Lilly, who is walking with the Lord but who resist contact with me. Tim, who is not walking with the Lord, living in another country with his girlfriend.

  34. Denice, my narcissist sister who is now plagued with many psychotic demons.
    Lord Jesus, have mercy on my mom and set her free.

  35. Amen! What a beautiful message that I truly needed today! For Grayson and Harper my dear grandchildren that live with me.

  36. C.F. I pray that he will keep in steady pace with God’s will, as his story is written. So much is weighing on his heart Father. May he turn to You each time as You turn Your face toward him, and keep him under Your divine protection. And give him peace Father. Shine Your face toward him. In Jesus’ name. Amen

  37. Please pray for my son J.C. He has been in a very prodigal state for years and he has suffered tremendous loss, but won’t repent. My husband and I have had a hard time with truly surrendering him to the Lord. Please pray for his sobriety,safety, health. Wisdom for my husband and I.
    Thank you.

  38. FUE
    JE
    JE
    JM
    AMSR.
    AMJR.
    AMSR.
    AMJR
    GM
    GM
    VM
    MM
    GMJR.
    ZM
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    AND ALL MY OTHER NIECES AND NEPHEW ‘S AND YOUNG COUSINS AND THEIR MOM’S AND DAD’S AND ME

  39. I pray for my children every day. Two had accepted the Lord, one while in prison and is now out and doing well but not living the life of a Christian. Another was baptized and accepted the Lord, but has wandered away. As bd my daughter had a wonderful heart and generous but has not accepted the Lord. I pray for Mark, Louis and Cristina every night and whenever I think of them.

  40. I pray for my children grandchildren and future generations :
    Michael, Brandon, Mikenna
    Alyssya Everly Rosie
    Christopher, and Brandon’s wife
    Future grandchildren
    Thank you Jesus that you love them so much and the plans you have for them will be fulfilled!!! Amen!!!

  41. This really hit home with me. I am always trying to “fix” my daughter. Either trying to “fix” her up, “fix” her problems, fix anything I can. I pray the will of God today for her. Amen

  42. Lord, I have stepped out of the way. Do what only you can do for JM. You get all of the glory!
    In Jesus name, Amen! 🙏

  43. Amen! Please pray for my son RD. He has severe cognitive impairment and several medical issues. He struggles so much with regulation of emotions . Please pray that God will calm his mind, body and heart! Thank you

  44. My sons, John and Joe, and my daughter, Jess. I am terribly good at getting God’s way with them. Thank you for this reminder to let God be god, because I am definitely not.

  45. My sons, John and Joe, and my daughter, Jess. I am terribly good at getting in God’s way. Thank you for reminding me that God is god and I am definitely NOT.

  46. SH
    It’s difficult to stay out of God’s way at times. Thank you for the reminder to keep praying and trust in the Lord.

  47. KH. God, You have been working on me to put her in Your hands. Please help me to trust You – I know You love her and have great plans for her life.

  48. Dear Faithful Father God,
    I release my son, T.P.S., over to You in Jesus’s Name.
    I release my dear friend of 35 years,
    V W IV, over to You in Jesus’s Name.
    I pray I will allow the Holy Spirit to keep me faithful, patient and trustworthy in the waiting.
    In Jesus’s Name I pray,
    Amen🙏🏾✝️

  49. This was what I needed today.
    I have prayed for both of my children Jessica and Tom.
    They are both going through so
    Much right now. But I feel that God is answering my prayers for them. I’m praying that these are lessons will change their lives. And that they will turn to God.❤️🙏

  50. Yes! God’s perfect timing! As a daughter I need to allow my mother Joyce the space and time to walk in her grief journey after the recent passing of my father! Big life changing decisions face her in the days, weeks, months to come. I’m reminded that I’m only hear to listen, guide and support her through this difficult time, praying God will take her by His loving hand and guide her in the way to go! Amen!🙏

  51. Logan
    We lost his dad to cancer when Logan was 10. He is 26 now and needs God’s guidance and direction in his life. He is also looking for a job…praying God will open the right door.

  52. This hits home. Our son and his 4 children were abandoned by their wife and mother 12 years ago. Several years later she came back into their lives in a limited way, but the damage was done. They have all wandered in different degrees from the faith they started out in. All of them have dealt with this abandonment (they were 14,13,9, not quite 8 at the time) in different, sometimes destructive ways. I weep and pray for them often to come back to the Lord. Our son has gone through a few relationships, some “good”, some not so much, and is still not at peace. Nadine, Evan, Kendra, Serena, and James, their dad. Thank you.

  53. Thank you for this work that was so needed to my heart. My daughter is pursuing a job that I don’t want her to take and I need to learn to step back and let God work in her and her heart. 🙏

  54. Pray for Sarah, AJ and Trinity. They are going through the same because their dad passed while they were little.

  55. I turn over my husband, GMM, and his heart to you Lord. Please do your work and whatever your will is for his life. May he choose your way, life. In Jesus’ name, Amen and Amen

  56. I’m sorry Lord God if I had been in your way…forgive me. I am handing now my kids over to You. You’re all knowing and all seeing, what is best for my kids and their life.
    PA
    KA
    GA
    SA
    MA

  57. My son Toby & his GF Ali. Ali was not raised with any Christianity. She IS searching, and they are reading the bible together that I sent. Yes, I got permission first. LOL! Didn’t want to offend her. But they are listening to all the NOISE in the world and I feel like not spending as much time trying to hear from God and for her to learn more about who HE is. But, I need to get out of the way and LET GOD! Thank you for this! Great eye opener. They ARE open to hearing from us about things, so that is a praise!

  58. I’m stepping out of God’s way today so that he can fix what needs to be fixed in EW, KW, and BW’s hearts and lives. I will continue to pray, listen, and watch…

  59. Prayers for my sons, CL and JL that they come to Christ and give their lives to him! Especially JL and he is gay. They both have heard myself and their grandma talk to them about salvation and I know it’s all in God’s timing. I give this to HIM! In Jesus name!

  60. My husband Larry. He knows about God, he prays and believes to a degree. But Satan also has a hold on him that hasn’t been broken yet!
    Thank you!
    God Bless you!

  61. Please help me get out of the way for ARP and ALP. I care with all my being but you dear lord are the only one that can truly heal them. Forgive me for getting in the way.

  62. WAS
    Lord,
    Will you do what you alone can do to transform her heart and may I choose to stay out of your way and quietly pray, trusting you to accomplish what you alone have the power to do. Amen

  63. My son-in-law, Adam. My children, Amanda, Derek, Heavenlee and Emily. My grandchildren, Isaac, Silas, Zackary and Nevaeh. May God show up for them in a mighty way that they would turn to Him and recognize that He is their source for everything.

  64. What a great prayer, these words in your prayer speak volume to these two boys. They easily get talked into things.

    I pray my grandson John Nathan and my step grandson Cam would declare this day that the LORD is their God and walk in obedience to Him. I pray they will listen to Your voice speaking to their heart—that they will turn away from any voices of this world, the flesh or the devil that confuse their identities and turn toward voices that are consistent with Your teaching and Your Word.

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