I Want to Be Pursued

“Long before he laid down earth’s foundations, he us in mind, and  had settled on us as the focus of his love, to be made whole and holy by his love,” (Ephesians 1:4 MSG).

I was in college when I first eyed my husband. He was sitting on the floor at a friend’s Bible study gathering with his back against the wall, dressed in scruffy jeans and a red flannel shirt with the sleeves rolled halfway up his muscular forearms. His thick brown hair and chocolate-brown eyes left me weak in the knees. And the best part was that this handsome hunk of a man had a tattered Bible in his lap. He laughed easily, prayed humbly, and read intently. I was smitten from the first time I laid eyes on Steve.

After a few weeks, he finally asked me out on a date. We continued seeing each other over the next several weeks, but I was still accepting invitations from others as well. One night, Steve asked me to a college football game, and I agreed to go. Then he said, “Can I just ask you? Will you go with me to all of the football games for the rest of the year?”

“I’m not going to answer that question,” I replied. “You’ll just have to ask me each week.”

Looking back on those early days, what I was really saying was that I wanted to be pursued. None of this blanket invitation for the entire Fall business. I wanted to be wooed and won. Even though he had me the moment I saw him sitting on the shag carpet floor, I didn’t want him to know that. I wanted him to show me I was worth putting forth the effort to capture my heart. Isn’t that the desire of every woman’s heart?

And nobody does it better than God.

The entire Bible from Genesis 3 to Revelation 22:21 is a record of God’s passionate pursuit of the human heart. Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Joseph, Moses, Joshua, Samuel, a string of kings, both good and bad, intermingled with prophets wooing and warning God’s people. We end the last chapter of the Old Testament with silence. And then 400 years later, God breaks the holy hush with the cry of a babe in a manger as the story picks back up in Bethlehem.

From God’s first question, “Where are you?” until Jesus’ final words, “It is finished,” we see God drawing mankind with cords of kindness that sometimes appear anything but kind—drawing people back to Himself with ties of love (Hosea 11:4). We’ve wiggled and wrangled trying to break free of those cords, but He continues to lasso us with love and draw us in again.

Passionate pursuit. He’s pulled out all the stops to woo and win your heart.

Be on the lookout today. God is pursuing you. Sending you love notes in the sky. Serenading you in the song of a bird. Salting your thirst to know him more. This email is simply one of the many ways he’s pursuing you today.

Oh, and that Steve Jaynes fellow from college? I married him and today is our 32th wedding anniversary…and I’m still crazy about him!

Let’s Pray

Jesus, I am almost blushing at the many ways you have pursued me. Love struck, really. Forgive me for not noticing your advances or taking them for granted. My eyes are open to moments of sudden glory today-moments when you make your articulate presence known.
In Your Name I pray, Amen.

What do you Think?

Read through the Song of Solomon. If your Bible has headings, read the parts with the heading Lover. Read them as Jesus pursuing you.

Leave a comment and tell me some ways Jesus has been pursuing you lately.

Want More? 

Today’s blog was taken from my new book, A Sudden Glory: God’s Lavish Response to Your Ache for Something More. It will be release in 5 days! Check it out at www.localhost/sjold. 


30 Responses to I Want to Be Pursued

  1. bimpe August 16, 2012 at 8:03 am #

    WAAAAAAOOOOOOOO!!!!!!! today’s reading really made me understand the depth of God’s love for us through the various ways he reaches out to us and i appreciate him more for this, God bless you sharon, this girlfriends in God has blessed my life more than you can imagine and the present day stories you tell make it more real to me as a young lady trying to get to know God more, once again, God bless you

  2. Jennifer August 16, 2012 at 8:48 am #

    God has pursued me in many moments of my life, but one of my favorite memories of his love shaping my future was in my choice of a college. I really wanted to go out of state to college, but finances made me reconsider an in state choice. I again had my mind set on one school, but a full academic scholarship arrived at a different school. Upon a second visit to the Florida State University, four hours from my Winter Park, FL home…I felt differently. God softened my heart and opened my eyes that FSU would be a great school! He even painted a rainbow in the sky on the ride home. This was my cue that he would take care of me there.

    There I met amazing friends, grew in my faith in Him, and found my independence start to blossom. I met my husband at FSU, and he and I have been married for 10 years. That is the most perfect gift that God had planned specifically for me to find at FSU. I love him dearly to this day, and we still pursue each other. We have learned to pray together, and God has grown us into a strong couple with two precious boys. I feel blessed beyond belief. And, I hope you have a wonderful anniversary! I saw your Facebook post, and I loved this mornings Girlfriends in God message. I got that too! Marriage is magnificent, and God does pursue us through our spouses!

  3. Marilyn Morales August 16, 2012 at 10:22 am #

    Tears filled my eyes as God revealed his pursuing love to me this morning. I woke early this morning to arrive to work before dawn to wrap-up my packing in preparation for the move to the new building 5 miles away. This week had been a very busy one as coworker labored to get everything packed before the deadline.

    The Lord impressed on my heart to arrive early and spend some time with Him. The Lord used this email to pursue my heart this morning and to reaffirm my committment to commune with Him early in the morning.

  4. Tia August 16, 2012 at 11:39 am #

    As i woke up reading this early this morning it blessed me so much. As a single women who is saved I have a desire to be pursued but I walk each day desiring to find who God has for me but constantly rejecting the advances from Satan. I realize God in His wonderful love for me blessed me this day to wake up early to read this blog to remind me of His great love for me. What a blessed reminder of how You God can fulfill the ache of being alone. He is always on time. Thank You for this post today.

  5. anonymous August 16, 2012 at 12:20 pm #

    A few years ago, my marriage was on the rocks and I was more focused on my circumstances than on the Lord. I wanted my husband to show me that he loved me and wanted this marriage. In my mind and in my heart, I cried out that I just wanted to be wooed. I wanted to know and feel that I was loved and wanted. As I did this, I sensed deep down, almost audibly, the Lord saying, “I am wooing you. I love you. I will never leave you or forsake you.” That was a big turning point for me in my relationship with the Lord. He brought me out of that slimy pit and put my feet on the Rock. My marriage is still struggling, but my relationship with the Lord is not. He continues to guide me, walk with me and love me daily. The marriage may not have changed much in these years, but He has done so many other things in and around my life. And I have changed, having the peace and the joy that can only come from God.

  6. Vickie Van Antwerp August 16, 2012 at 12:37 pm #

    Before I ever met my husband my mother-in-law was praying for God to send him a Christian wife. The Lord had His own plans and sent him a little Mormon girl. It was not long before I felt that tug from the Lord to wander into His word and find truth. He was persistant, He was loving and He was gracious to teach me and confirm me as His own He lead me to His word that filled my soul until I could not get enough; my cup ran over. The Lord answered my mother-in-law’s prayer. As you can see-things are not always what they seem.

    • Cindy Fox August 16, 2012 at 2:04 pm #

      Wow! Praise God! Thank you so much for sharing this Vickie! God is so good!!! God bless you as you continue to grow in Him!

      Because of Jesus,
      Cindy fox

  7. Taña August 16, 2012 at 12:46 pm #

    I am a baby Christian, since November. I made my plans for the day yesterday, then gave them to God. I asked if he would just check them over and then show me what HE wanted for my day. I didn’t get one thing on my list done! I am a self centered person, especially with “my” time. I have a husband and 5 kids, the “baby” is 11 and only one has moved out. I will be the first to tell you if left to my own will, I am no Proverbs 31 wife and mother. Rise when it’s dark and feed my family?! Please. I had plans yesterday. Apparently HIS were different, and better.
    Out of seemingly nowhere I asked my 20 year old son if he would like me to cook him breakfast, so I did. Joyfully. I then proceeded to go to the store and get things for his dinner breaks, he works 2:30pm-1:00am sometimes 6 days a week, and just started school too. I packed him a delicious dinner, lovingly, not grudgingly, complaining the whole time that “no one appreciates me”. Weird.
    Then, out of the blue my husband came home early and I spent time alone with him, that almost never happens. I never even thought about all the stuff I wasn’t getting done. I was just in love with my husband. Then the icing on the cake!
    I am slowly trying to allow Jesus, through me to reach my family. They are all unchurched. They have gone from “I don’t want to hear it” and ridicule, to accepting mom is a Christian and being respectful of that, but “thanks but no thanks”
    As I was doing my study for a volunteer counseling position at our local crisis pregnancy center, I had my bible open to read the assigned verses. All the sudden my “baby” comes and lays down by me and asks what I am reading and why. So I told him. Every time I went to a new chapter and set of verses he asked, “what’s that one?”
    What do ya know, we were reading parables, and he asked me to read them out loud, and he asked questions! Which led to him actually listening when I explained who Jesus is, what he did for us and how kind and loving and forgiving he is.
    Wow! I am so glad I got “nothing” done yesterday!

    • Cindy Fox August 16, 2012 at 2:07 pm #

      Praise God, Tana! Thank you so much for sharing this with us. it’s a good reminder to never give up. God cares about that loved ones as much and more than we do! God bless you as you continue to draw close to Him and reach out to your family in His love!

      Because of Jesus,

  8. Tabítha August 16, 2012 at 1:20 pm #

    Hi Sharon,

    Thank you for sharing your heart with us today. Thank you for always sharing your heart with us! 🙂

    Today’s blog was a reminder for me because I have heard this message before — specifically in Captivating by John and Staci Eldredge. A wonderful book! They talk about the Romance extensively in Chapter 7. Still, this blog also stirred up frustration because I feel that this romance stuff is lovely intellectually but experientially I feel it’s inadequate as a panacea — if that’s what we can call it — against wanting to experience romance with a guy. Perhaps I’m conceptualizing this the wrong way! :-/ I guess I’ve wanted to view it this way, since I’ve had such disappointment in the romance department. I’m 28 and haven’t had a serious relationship, though I can see that it was best for me not to engage this. However, the wounds are real. The weariness of having to deal with these emotions is also very real. I must confess that a romance with God is a lot less appealing to me than it used to be a few years ago simply because I’m at a point in my life where I would much rather have someone I can see! :-/ I don’t want to ditch God, but the fact that He’s invisible, although He does manifest Himself in tangible ways, is very, very frustrating when I’m experiencing the weight of my emotions, the weight of my longing for companionship and the weight of my frustration with the way that my emotions complicate what might be a much easier pursuit of God if I could see Him. This might sound like an elementary complaint, but I think there’s a much more profound truth embedded here. Namely, we cannot see Him on this side of eternity, and, in order to see Him as I see another person, we must die and go to heaven. I don’t mean to be morbid, but this is exactly how I feel now .

    I have indeed taken for granted His gifts because frankly I’ve wanted more than a sunset or ducks following me around or nice piece of classical music. I want and need human companionship.

  9. Colleen August 16, 2012 at 1:27 pm #

    Seems like He’s constantly trying to get my attention. It’s not like I ignore HIm, but He always wants more of me. And when I don’t give Him enough of me (which is most of the time), He wakes me up. This week my wake up call was the announcement of my brother’s kidney cancer. Well, the first thing I do is turn to Him. He knows that, and “hello”, that’s why these things happen in our lives. If we had no adversity, would we pay ANY attention to Him?? Even us Christians who look to Him each day?? Thank You, Jesus, for wooing me back time and time again. You are my Sovereign God always!

  10. Rhonda Dooley August 16, 2012 at 2:12 pm #

    Regardless of our gifts and tasks Jesus always tugs on our heart strings early in the morning hours. One of the keys that Jesus gave to his father after he overcame darkness in hell (displaced the power of destruction) when he appeared to Mary Magdalene, was the key of “Time” We know that when the Comforter comes that all time and space is under an (ar-rest) arrest… . That when we stand in the glory of his reign, Peace rules our heart and we have peace that surpasses understanding ~ then is when we become aware of omnipresence to utter in our bliss “Let all glory, power, honor be unto the King of Kings.” We want nothing to be done for vain glory, no menial task to interfere with a Master who is above all through all and in all. Most of all a wonderful Savior who proves to us as we give him our time that he is our Lord, the only good and perfect gift of LIFE.

  11. kATHLEEN August 16, 2012 at 2:19 pm #

    Jesus gave me the motivation and courage to lose weight, eat healthy, get healthy, keep a positive attitude, and be strong – so that I may conquer my next battle, ( cancer). Prasie God !!

  12. Cindy Fox August 16, 2012 at 2:27 pm #

    Dear Sharon: Thank you so much for sharing these thoughts. Last fall I was blessed to participate in an “Intimacy With God” retreat. This fall there will be a part two. A sister in Christ recently posed this question: “Do you love God or are you in love with God?” This stuck with me. I “came across” a Bible Study at church entitled FALLING IN LOVE WITH JESUS, by Dee Brestin and Kathy Troccoli. God is most definitely pursuing me through this study and more.

    This past Sunday, I stopped at our public library to look though some books someone had left out front. There were boxes of books. I came across three Henri Nouwen books, the first of which I started reading this morning. Wow! It is entitled, HEART SPEAKS TO HEART, Three Prayers to Jesus; Ave Maria Press, Notre, Dame, IN. May I share from the back cover?

    “…instead of writing about the Sacred Heart, he (Henri) “began to discern in my own heart a real desire to speak to the heart of Jesus and he heard.” The result was this book, “…that beautifully expresses the longing and expectations of the human heart responding to the heart of Jesus as revealed in the gospels. ” The focus of these prayers – following the events of the passion, death and resurrection – is the heart of Jesus and the author’s identification with the brokenness of that heart and the desire for the love of Jesus. He struggles with doubt and faith, with the distractions of human desires, and with acceptance of the love God has for him.” “I want to help people,” explains Nouwen. To help them “enter into the compassionate heart of Jesus with their whole heart, and come to know there the healing love of God.”

    I read the first prayer this morning. Whew! God is so good! Jesus is my Bridegroom and I his Bride. We are in a time of preparation/separation (physically) right now. He is preparing a place for me in his Father’s Mansion. I am preparing my “wedding gown” – becoming more and more like Jesus!

    Praying this makes sense and folks will be ministered to by it. There is so much to this relationship with Jesus as we await His glorious appearing. 😀 God bless you all!

  13. Toni Wortherly August 16, 2012 at 2:35 pm #

    God has pursued me by chasing after me even when I ran. I had my prodigal daughter moments, but He still loved me and He showed me how I treat Him in the way that others have treated me. I have had many revelations about His pursuit in my love journey and I am so thankful that He never gave up on me.

  14. Kathy August 16, 2012 at 3:29 pm #

    YES!! I am pursued! It has been a long journey but it is getting clearer each day. My desire has always been to be part something bigger than myself. I began singing at age 4 and thot that was what God wanted me to do. He allowed me to sing in many ensembles, solos, and venues until I was twenty-eight standing in a studio about to lay my vocals on my second album. Nothing would come out. It was as if a stopper was put on my face and I could not remove it. At the time I thot it was God’s punishment for habits that did not honor Him. but in the 32 years that I have continued to seek His purpose for me I have learned that HE would not allow the bargains I made with Him (I will do. . . Examples-be Perfect, be the best, etc. …IF you will just let me have satisfaction through music–being a Star!) to come true because He has been pursuing me to have satisfaction in HIS PRESENCE alone. He said “NO” to the singing career. He said “NO” to a marriage that would be perfect in the eyes of other believers. He said “NO” to children who would follow God perfectly so I could be held in honor by other believers. He said “NO” to all of these because HE has desired from the foundations of the earth for me to find my deepest and most complete satisfaction in Knowing HE is with me and completes me in each moment I allow Him to control and satisfy me. He shows me in Psalm 139 that He knows me, wants to be with me, thinks about me all the time, and knows my every thought and wish. I was so surprised when I learned that is what I have wanted in a lover or from people in general all along.
    I went to a “Your Secret Name” conference and heard a speaker say that after Adam and Eve sinned in the garden God’s curse was that the two would find no satisfaction in work or relationship because HE wanted to draw them back to their TRUE SOURCE-GOD. the speaker said “God will block thwart, frustrate, and stop any plan or device that could bring us satisfaction until we see HIM as our source for that desire. WOW! All the failures of my life took on a new dimension that day. they were all the “NO’s” to God’s best in my life. I began to see how hard God was pursuing me!!! Since I have begun getting a grip on what
    this means I have found HIM romancing me through the starry night sky that I see as I walk to work. The song of the birds, and the roar of the thunder. They tell me of his delight and protection. I have learned to see and listen from HIS perspective and I am feeling truly pursued and am delighted in HIM.

  15. Vicky V. August 16, 2012 at 4:05 pm #

    Hi Sharon – Loved today’s devotional. Made me think about the many ways the Lord pursues me with His infinite Love.Sometimes we just have to step outside of ourselves in order to recognize His pursuits. When I’m in the realm of God’s perspective and see things through His Eyes, His treasures are immeasurable. Simply love being a daughter of a King! Looking forward to the Wedding Feast and knowing my Prince in all His Fullness.

  16. Ellen Cay Havlik August 16, 2012 at 4:38 pm #

    Dear Sharon, Happy anniversary! May God bless you and Steve. Thank you for sharing your passion for the Lord with all of your readers, touching us in amazing ways.

  17. Kate Walsh August 16, 2012 at 4:41 pm #

    Todays reading was good. God has been surprising me with His words. He knows what I’m thinking , He knows my thoughts. He knows I want Him.

  18. Keke August 16, 2012 at 6:34 pm #

    I just finished praying and seeking god for confirmation on attending class at a local bible institute. I feel that He has laid it on my heart to do so. I have done so before and desired to return not knowing when or how. I am happy to say that I just registered for classes this week and am looking forward to all that God has in store for me.

  19. Kate Walsh August 16, 2012 at 8:50 pm #

    Went to a youth group tonight and had been praying to God for Him to pursue me and I wanted to seek His face. Got to the end of the night it was a time of praise and worship. I looked out the window and I saw a beautiful sunset. It was blue,purple,peach and orange. I stood in awe of God.

  20. ellen luney August 17, 2012 at 4:29 pm #

    hey Sharon..just yesterday i recieved a emailand i knew God was drawing me to himself…..love ya Blessings..

  21. Sharon Pearce August 21, 2012 at 10:57 am #

    Sharon God is love. There is no greater love. Thank you for your ministry. GIGs has been such a blessing in my life.

    My husband is definitely a romantic. When we first began dating, he found out where I worked. He took time off of work, walked around a huge parking lot looking for my car and left a dozen red roses on the hood of the car and slipped a sweet card through the window into my car. As I walked to my car, I saw something on the hood but couldn’t make out what it was. As I got closer and saw the roses, my heart just about burst. As I read the card, I knew God had provided the right man for me. He has done so many romantic things through our 23 year marriage, but this is the one that captured my heart. Praise Him! God is so good!

  22. Rita August 21, 2012 at 11:38 am #

    There of course are no coincidences with God. Just last night I looked out my window. I moved to a new apartment and have been here for about three weeks. I hung a bird feeder in my tree and filled it with food for a cardinal. I have not seen any yet and began wondering if there are no cardinals in my neighborhood. When I looked out last night there was a beautiful male cardinal sitting on the perch eating some food. I was awe struck with his beauty and Praised God for his wonderful imagination and awesome work. Now how do you think a cardinal knows where to go in this vast world we live in to a little house that has food laid out for him?


  23. Carolyn August 21, 2012 at 2:21 pm #

    Thanks so much for this wonderful message you were right on target and you identified a very interesting feeling that spoke to my heart about our relationship with the the man I love.
    I praise God for those magical moments that take my breath away and one of the nicest experiences I have had was when I was able to sit at his feet and share feelings of love
    with him while he listened and then was able to share his love and feelings for me. It happened as God had planned it for us..
    May God continue to speak to your heart as I love when you share Steve and his love for you.

  24. Debra August 21, 2012 at 3:27 pm #

    I love the way God show’s me he loves me. I went to a womans meeting. and the speaker after she had given her msg. She picked up a rose and started to pull the petals off and handed them to a few ladys I just started thinking how I was not good enough to get one and few min later unknowing to the speaker what I was thinking she walked over to me and she started puting each petal on my head I asked her why she did that and she said God told her to that I would know how much he loved me .getting tears in my eyes just writing this. thank you Father for making me feel special. I shared this in the Glory moments God sends you. just got back from florida last night! from being with my sister, that went to be with Jesus. when i went to take my dog out today, something flew by me. i looked at the side of the house right by my door i saw a big butterfly had two eyes and what looks like a smile! some may think im crazy but i know its just God letting me know that my sister is home and happy with Jesus! no one can tell me God is not real and that he doesnt care about us. thank you God! if you want to see the butterfly you can look on my face book page . Debra Madden

  25. Donna August 22, 2012 at 9:14 pm #

    Looks like a good book. I am anxious to read it.

  26. Beth Courtright August 23, 2012 at 11:50 am #

    Sharon when I read today’s devotional it brought me to tears. I love the fact that Jesus pursues me because He loves me that much. I also love the fact that He died for me as if I was the only person to die for because I’m worth it. I don’t want you to think I’m sounding weird or anything but it just turns my heart into mush just thinking about it. I admit I don’t do all the right things all the time and He understands that but at least I can go to him without any reservations and curl up in His sweet loving arms and ask for forgiveness and He does. Is there anybody on the face of the planet that can love you that much other than your spouse Sharon or true friends? Other than that there isn’t any. Well Sharon please keep the devotions coming. I love starting my day with those and a cup of coffee. God bless you and the rest of the girls. Remember Jesus loves you and me too.

  27. Dore August 29, 2012 at 7:08 pm #

    Once again —-Thanks Sharon for sharing God’s precious love messages to me!
    I also am married for many years(37)! not without trials, and much dependence on God’s direction! I agree we as women adore being woed!
    Each day I thank God for being the creater,healer, teacher, friend, counsellor, and
    my saviour!


  28. Damaris October 27, 2012 at 6:04 am #

    Congrats i’ve always believed divorce is the order of the day there. So to see someone married for 32yrs its sound like here in our country. Agains congrats.

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