God can Resurrect Your Marriage from the Ashes Part 2


“So I prophesied as he [God] commanded me, and breath entered them; they came to life and stood up on their feet-a vast army,” (Ezekiel 37:10 NIV).

Friend to Friend
I can hardly wait for you to read the rest of the story from earlier in the week. If you missed it, please go back and read it first. Here’s where we left off…Don and Jona were divorced.

Now friends, the next part of the story is what Dr. Phil did not tell you. God began working on Jona’s heart. She didn’t change because of a self-help book or a ten step program, but because of the miraculous work of the Holy Spirit. Do you want to know what really happened? Do you want to know what Dr. Phil did not tell his viewers? Grab a cup of coffee and keep reading.

God took Jona to a place of repentance and began to soften, remold and remake her very heart. That’s what God does. He doesn’t try to cover up our flaws; He starts from scratch and makes us new. While the divorce was final, God was only just beginning to work on Jona’s heart.

“God took me to a place of repentance,” Jona explained. “For the first time, through a support group, I saw clearly what I had done to destroy my marriage. I had always blamed our problems on Don changing jobs so often, but the real problem was my lack of respect for the God appointed leader of my home. I was the real problem and Don simply couldn’t take it anymore. I had rejected Don with my words, my appearance, and my withdrawal of physical touch.”

Whether or not God could salvage the marriage, Jona made a commitment that she would allow God to salvage her.

Jona’s heart longed to be reunited to Don, but her ultimate goal was to become the woman God wanted her to be. She immersed herself in Bible study and prayer, and began to take an interest in her appearance. Interesting, as the pounds began to drop, so did the scales that had covered her eyes.

“I began to understand what God’s Word said about the relationship between a husband and wife. I was not Don’s Holy Spirit. I was not the leader of my home. God had called me to respect Don as the leader, to honor him as a child of God, and to love him with my all. One day when Don came to pick up our two boys, I shared with him what I had been learning.”

“I told Don that I knew that we were divorced, but I was making a commitment to submit to him. I didn’t when we were married, but I did from that time forward.”

“That’s fine,” he told me. “But you need to know I’m moving on with my life.”

“You can move on,” I said, “But I’m staying right here.”

Jona continued to encourage Don and give him her BEST.

“BEST stands for bless, edify, share, and touch,” she explained. “I began to touch him when he came by the house. I’d pat his back or give him a quick hug. When I knew he was coming, I’d put on a nice dress and fix my hair. I’d tell him I was proud of how he was handling the boys and share with him what God was teaching me. Some people told him I was trying to trick him and that he should ignore me. But it wasn’t a trick. God had changed my heart and I was committed, no matter what happened between us in the future, to never go back to being that bitter woman I had been before.”

“Sharon, I hate to tell you this,” she said, “but for the first time, I prayed for Don. I had never prayed for him before, but now I pray for him all the time.”

Jona lost the added pounds and gained a beautiful glowing countenance. It was amazing. More than the change in her physical appearance, the glow of Jesus Christ shone through her radiant face.

Don was confused at times and a bit leery of the change. “Why do you think I’m wonderful, all of a sudden?” he asked her.

“Because now I see you through God’s eyes,” she explained. “I see that you are a wonderful man.”

Don fell in love with Jona all over again. No, it wasn’t a trick – it was a miracle. God has given them a second chance. They were remarried on August 24, 2003. Oh how I love God … He is the God of second chances.

Dear friends, Jona has so graciously allowed me to tell you her story because she has decided that she will do anything to help one woman not make the same mistakes she has made. She cried and cried all through the recounting of the story, and relived the pain…for you. “God allowed me to go to a terrible place,” Jona explained. “My prayer is that others will not have to go to that place before they wake up and realize what they are doing to their men.”

And that…is what Dr. Phil did not tell you.

Let’s Pray
Dear LORD, help me be the woman my husband needs for me to be. Help me to stop concentrating on his faults and failures, but start looking at my own. Show me. Teach me. Empower me. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn
Is God telling you there is something you need to do differently in your marriage? Is there something you need to do differently in other important relationships in your life?

You know, Jona did not destroy her marriage by herself. Don made his fair share of mistakes too. But here’s the thing – we cannot change another person. We can only change ourselves. And sometimes…that is enough.

Consider giving your BEST to others. Write out the acronym and keep it in a prominent place.

BLESS
EDIFY
SHARE
THOUCH

What has this two-part devotion stirred in your heart? I’d love to know. Please leave a comment below and let’s chat!

Want More?
Today’s devotion was taken from Sharon’s book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For. Sharon interviewed hundreds of men to see what they really wanted in the woman of their dreams, and their answers are there for you to see! If you would like to have a husband who is sorry to leave home in the morning and eager to return, then this book is for you!

 

15 Responses to God can Resurrect Your Marriage from the Ashes Part 2

  1. Heidi February 11, 2012 at 11:23 pm #

    Thank you for this. It conferms some of what I have been feeling. My marrige is in Gods hands right now. My husband and I both love God but my husband has struggled with an issue that has affected our marriage greatly. I have put it in Gods hands and want God to work on me! THis was soo mazingly encouraging Thank you!

  2. Kim February 12, 2012 at 1:06 am #

    My husband told me I have a bitter heart, I realized he was right. I want to work on my heart to make my marriage better. Thank you for this story it gave me hope that God can help me change my bitter heart. Please pray for me and where can I find the help? Thanks Kim

  3. genalyn February 12, 2012 at 3:47 am #

    HI Sharon I am touched and blessed with the story of Don and Jona how God worked in their lives. i hope i could talk to you pesonally because i am going through difficult situation with my marriage. thanks and God bless you.

  4. Jasmine February 13, 2012 at 2:30 am #

    Thanks for this Sharon! I’m newly married, and this article has such great pointers about how I will never be able to change my spouse, and that only God can. 🙂 In the meantime, I am encouraged. So I’ll continue to let God be at the centre of our marriage, and be reminded to submit to my husband 🙂 Thanks for sharing.

  5. Martha February 13, 2012 at 2:00 pm #

    Hi Sharon! What a great story! I personally know that this can happen but it was the other way around in my marriage. My husband and i drifted apart in our marriage. We have 4 children and I was giving everything I had to them w/out thinking too much of my husband because I felt he didn’t really love me anymore. He had a total change around after we both became closer to God. As he grew up as a Christian he grew away from God. I remember praying for him to become closer to God. Almost a year ago something happend in my husbands life where he made a bad mistake and had to tell me things he knew I wouldn’t like and said he had wasted his life and should have been closer with God. I have never seen my husband sob so much since we have been together. We have been together 24 years and married for 17 years. We have never been closer to God or eachother!! By becoming closer to Jesus and living For Jesus, it brought my husband and I back to such a loving marriage. I would never have thought it could happen! We are so IN LOVE now with each other and Jesus. What a wonderful God we have!! Great to hear the story of Jona and her husband.

  6. Becky February 13, 2012 at 2:37 pm #

    Thank you Jona for sharing your story. It is so very encouraging! By the grace of God my marriage was also saved after my husband almost left me for another woman. Miraculously (from no strength of my own) God softened my heart and helped me to look at what I was doing wrong instead of putting all the blame on my husband. To God be the glory…I will be forever thankful for HIS divine intervention. At the time I was unable to find any marriages that had survived such turmoil….only ones that had failed….but God gave me the strength to stay positive and to take one day at a time . But most importantly HE gave me the strength to forgive. We need to keep spreading the word that God is in the business of restoring souls, forgiving and renewing. He will never give up on us, but we must never give up on HIM. Thank you Jona, Don, and Sharon for allowing God to use you to encourage us all. God bless!

  7. Cindy February 13, 2012 at 5:04 pm #

    Sharon, thank you for this example of restoration in a marriage. I too, struggle with issues of lack of trust, etc.. and realize too that I cannot be the Holy Spirit in my marriage. I cannot change my husband,, only God can. He has come a long way in the year and a half that we have been married. It has been extremely difficult at times, and only God and the prayers of precious friends and family have seen us through. But, I know that it is Gods’ will for a strong, blessed marriage and for people not to throw it away. We live in a disposable society. People throw away their babies, their morals, and..their marriages when they become so hard.. sometimes. Only God can restore and resurrect… and bring joy and beauty out of the ashes..it is really and truly,, for better or for WORSE sometimes. But, God is able. . I appreciate your helping other women through this! God bless you and your work.

  8. Malissa February 14, 2012 at 1:02 pm #

    You are a blessing to me! I have been struggling through my marriage for 18 years now and I feel the same as Jona. Only we didn’t get divorced and I don’t let myself gain too much I can not take off. But feel 240 at times. My heart is heavy and broken. I was at a seminar last year and picked up the book Becoming the Woman of His Dreams! and I was infact becoming or have been that woman you described..a nightmare of a woman. I am choosing to read your bookand praying to change…myself! Since I can not change him or our issues. I know God can and He put us together so He will restore our marriage, I am not giving up hope and letting the enemy win. Thank you for the encouragement! I love your stories and am sooooo very blessed by each one of them!!!!

  9. Susan February 20, 2012 at 2:56 pm #

    Hi Sharon, This is exactly what I have needed to hear for a while now. I have only been married 2 years and thought about leaving. I just found your website a couple of days ago when I was looking for a women’s daily devotional. This story sounds just like me except that I was the one contemplating divorce. My husband is a wonderful man of God, and my words have not been edifying but rather tearing down. I want this change in myself and I know that God has brought me to your site and He will continue to do a good work in me. I would like to speak with you personally.

  10. bless February 21, 2012 at 8:23 am #

    thank you very much,i am at a point where we dont know whether we still ove each other or we are together because of our child,but i have taken a step to say let God help me,help my self,tame my tongue and make me a better wife,so thank you a lot .

  11. Peace March 2, 2012 at 1:29 pm #

    Thank you so very much for this article. It was indeed a blessing. I now realize i must respect my husband more and submit to him. Though we are presently going through a difficult time in our marriage and he wants to walk out (divorce) i believe that God through His Holy Spirit, will work it out for us. I on my part will give my ´B.E.S.T.´ from now on, and leave the rest to our Father who knows how to work His Miracles to take control.
    Thank you very much. I was really blessed.
    Peace.

  12. NOMSA May 4, 2012 at 9:01 am #

    Hi the story just gives me strength, it makes me to want to committee myself into respecting and honoring my man

  13. Misguided August 22, 2012 at 8:56 pm #

    I first read this story a few years ago in your book becoming the woman of his dreams. Eve though I read the book I was a miserable soul. I made it my job to be everyone’s “subjective” thinker, a nice way of saying I am/ was a negative person. God recently started dealing with my heart and I’m truly tryin to focus on him. It’s a little late however because before I ever married my love and father to my children I broke him into pieces because I blame him for my unhappiness in life. Now I’m in the process of moving out as a single mom of two little girls who have no idea daddy isn’t coming. How will I tell them I ruined him and he isn’t coming to liv with us? The other day when he broke up with me I began to focus on God an I feel renewed in knowing God is always there. I’m excited for the future God has for me but I can’t help but have a broken heart because the pain and distraction I brought into my own home. I single handed destroyed my family. No the father to my girls is not perfect but he deserved respect I never gave him. We are both Christians and knew God didnt want us to live together but we continued this road. Maybe had we made different decisions I would not be here today. Is there anyway I could speak with Jona ? My desire is to now serve God at all cost but I would be lying is I didn’t tell the truth and tell you I pray everyday for God to restore my family. I pray for my personal relationship and for “c” personal walk also. I am doing my best to submerge my life in God and involve myself with church an other Christians. I need many prayers as I venture out on my own for the first time ever. I have never lived alone not have I ever been a single mom. Please pray for my family. More specifically pray for “c” and his relationship he is a good man and with or without me he would be an amazing husband and leader. I want him to find Christ in a strong and beautiful way. If anyone has support or advice send it my way please I need all the friends I can get because as it turns out I left my hometown to live with “c” and I honestly don’t have a Christian friend to lean on. Thank you for allowing me to write this out it helps stop the tears to know someone may understand.

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