Words Can Captivate Your Man (or any number of people)

“A good wife is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds,”
(Proverbs 31:10  The Message).

 Friend To Friend
OK, today’s blog is for married gals, but you single gals are not off the hook. Words are so powerful. We can use them to build people up or tear people down, to encourage or discourage, to speak life or to speak death. If you are not married, think of a friend or family member looking at your picture and musing about the impact you’ve had on their life. What would run through their mind? Now, you can read this devotion and put someone else in this buddy’s seat.

Today, I want you to use your imagination. I want you to imagine your husband sitting at his desk or at a quiet place at work. Imagine him lost in thought about how blessed he is to have you as his wife. He holds your framed picture in his hand and moisture begins to pool in his eyes. He is captivated.

All the riches in the world are not to be compared with the jewel I have in this woman, he muses. What did I ever do to deserve her? God has given me such a gift. All our married life, she has done nothing but love me, bring out the best in me, and look out for my best interest.  All the guys at the office are envious of our relationship. I see the way their eyes soften when she comes by just to tell me hello, grabs my hand when we’re at office functions, or pecks me on the cheek for no apparent reason. I notice that her loving words to me are in stark contrast to some of the cutting remarks of other wives…and so do my friends.  I look around at the accomplishments of my life, but having this woman as my wife is my greatest. Oh sure, there are many women out there in the world who are accomplishing great feats, but my wife…well, she surpasses them all.

What a picture!  That’s the woman I want to be, don’t you? And amazingly my words can be the determining factor as to whether this scenario is possible or not. Did you know that there are words your husband longs to hear? Did you know that there are words we should never say? Let me give you a few from my book,

Words Never to Say to Your Husband

  1. I told you so.
  2. You just don’t think.
  3. It’s all your fault.
  4. What’s wrong with you?
  5. I can’t do anything to please you.
  6. All you care about is yourself.
  7. You never listen to me.
  8. I don’t know why I put up with you.
  9. What do you want now?
  10. How many times do I have to tell you?

Words Your Husband Longs to Hear

  1. I’ve been thinking about you all day.
  2. What can I do for you today?
  3. How can I pray for you today?
  4. The best part of my day is when you come home.
  5. You are one of God’s most precious gifts to me.
  6. You are so wonderful.
  7. You look so handsome today.
  8. I don’t feel complete without you.
  9. I will always love you.
  10. I trust your decisions.

Today, be aware of the words you say to your husband.  Do they build him up or tear him down? Do they make him glad he came home, or wish he hadn’t?

And for the single gal, consider the words that you speak to your co-workers and friends. They have their own lists tooJ

Let’s Pray
Dear Lord, please keep watch over my lips today. Help me use my words to speak life to those I come in contact with today. Help me use my words to build up and not tear down. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn
Why not pick out 1 or 2 phrases from the list of words your husband longs to hear and try them out today? You might be surprised just how much his eyes light up!  When you love your husband well, God says “Well done, my good and faithful servant!”

Let’s hold each other accountable. Pick one of the lines from what your husband longs to hear and tell me which one you are going to say today. And single gals, you pick one too. Tell me at www.facebook.com/sharonjaynes.

Want to Learn More?
February is the month of love and a wonderful time to contemplate our marriages. Do you want to become the woman of your husband’s dreams? The woman who makes him sorry to leave in the morning and eager to come home at night? Then you’ll want to read Sharon’s book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For. And if it’s that little muscle called THE TONGUE that you need to reign in, check out The Power of a Woman’s Words.



8 Responses to Words Can Captivate Your Man (or any number of people)

  1. juanita bordelon reeves February 15, 2012 at 6:23 pm #

    You are one of God’s most precious gifts to me.

    • Shelly schlitter September 19, 2017 at 8:10 pm #

      My husband kevin is so amazing some would say he has ruined my life he sets in jail gardner kansas waiting 2 yrs in prison but i still love him and i am gonna write him a letter and let him know how much i appreciate GOD FOR HIS BLESSING TO ME MY WONDERFUL HUSBAND WHO ACTUALLY IS A NEW MAN IN CHRIST AND IM PROUD OF HIM
      I NEED ALOT OF PRAYERS THAT INSTEAD OF TWO YEARS HE GETS 9 months in the residential center drug treatment i believe my husband is a good man with a disease and has had a rough life he is a good man who helps everyone he meets or knows so if you could please pray for kevin schlitter getting 6 to 9 months at the residential center tc program i would so be forever greatful thankyou

  2. Jackie B February 17, 2012 at 1:50 am #

    I was a widow for 30 yrs & just got married 2 years ago. I’m out going. My husband was married for 30 yrs and don’t talk very much at all. We can be home alone all day he he might say 20 words instead he’s on the computer. We don’t fight but its hard sometimes. He has no friends. Go no place but work. I like movies, out to dinner, go for a ride, walk in the park. Get together with family & friends but not him. He’s a truck driver. Before we got married, we went to movies, and so many other places. He will not even go to church anymore. He did for about six months after our marriage. I go & praying he will go one day soon. Any advice.

    Mrs What

  3. kysha February 20, 2012 at 1:53 pm #

    I just want to say thank you. I just bought the book Becomming the women of his Dreams. I am on chapter 3 this is such a greatt book thank you for showing us how to pray for our husbands and why it is so important . Any women that is looking for a great book for there marriage this is a book to read and study.

    Thanks for being a blessing.

  4. Angie March 1, 2012 at 2:37 pm #

    Mrs. What, I am sorry to hear your disappointment. I have learned that I can NOT change my husband. Only God can do that. But I CAN change myself. Be the best you, the best wife, the best friend you can be to your husband. Speak his love language. If you don’t know it, read “5 Love Languages”. Encourage him, make his favorite meal, tell him how thankful you are for God placing him in your life. Make him feel loved, needed, and respected. Then pray. I am praying for all husbands. Satan seems to be placing a stronghold over them. Join me in praying for husbands. Pray for them to be all that God created them to be. Hugs n prayers.

  5. Mary A April 4, 2012 at 12:51 pm #

    I have been praying for my husband the past 2 1/2 years. He has been in a relationship with a women that he works with. He has moved out of our home twice and can’t seem to let go of this relationship, even though he knows it is wrong and that he is hurting me. His relationship is mainly by cell phone. They text eachother throughout the day. I have been praying for God to guide me through this. My gut has always told me to stick with it and to continue to pray for my husband. It is hard not to be hurt when he gets calls in the evening of each day. I feel rejected, hurt and sad. I am convinced that God wants our marraige to be restored. Please pray for me and my husband.

  6. Kitty April 5, 2012 at 12:53 pm #

    I am glad that I found this website. I am not a christian but I love the words and it really helps me as a women. I am in love with someone. I was married for 17 years and after my divorce it took me a long time to open my heart to someone and he left. It hurts.

    Everyday, I try to focus on how amazing I am and I have a lot to offer someone. Its not easy. Thank you for the words of encourgaement. Blessings to everyone.

  7. Lois May 29, 2012 at 11:43 am #

    I appreciate your devotion for today, May 29. I have been married 43 years. We have had a great deal of difficulty in our relationship the last 4 years. At work I was taught to be assertive, as this is not my strength. This change has not been helpful at home, however. I am now letting God fight my battles for me and choosing to rise above the hurts and the differences. This has helped me alot. My grandmother’s generation did seem to think they had a “calling” to point out others’ short-comings. It makes it difficult to realize the only person we can change is ourselves. Thanks so much for your daily devotions. They have gotten me through the last year!!!

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