Retraining our Reflexes

Today’s Truth
Paul wrote: “Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me–put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you” (Philippians 4:9 NIV).

Friend To Friend
It was hot.  The traffic was heavy.  I was young and distracted.

I was driving alone in the flow of traffic traveling to and from the North Carolina coast.  I was in the group headed for home.  The July traffic was bumper to bumper with everyone going faster than the posted speed limit.  I had other things on my mind besides maneuvering in traffic and was paying little attention to the cars around me.

Traveling sixty miles per hour in my sporty two-tone Pontiac Sunbird, I felt my front right tire slip off of the asphalt and onto the gravel shoulder of the road.  In a flood of panic, I heard the voice of my Driver’s Ed teacher from four years before, “If you run off the road, do not, and I repeat, do not jerk you car back on the road.  Slow down to a stop and guide the car back onto the road gently.”

My mind knew the rule. I was even repeating, “Do not jerk the car. Do not jerk the car.”  Then I promptly… jerked the car. I pulled the steering wheel to the left, jerked the car onto the road, and lost control.  First the Sunbird flew across two lanes of traffic to the left and then, after overcorrecting again, she flew back off the road to the right.  As if in slow motion, my car began a descent down an embankment.  The weight of the car became unbalanced and began to roll.  As the car somersaulted down the embankment, my body tossed and tumbled like a rag doll, bouncing around the car’s interior.  I did not have on a seatbelt.  When the car landed upside down at the bottom of the embankment, I was sitting on the ceiling of the passenger’s side.

Travelers watched with mouths aghast as the scenario played out before them. You can imagine how amazed they were to see me crawl out of the car’s opened window without a scratch.  I knew, without a doubt, that I should not have lived through that accident.  It was only by the grace of God that I survived.

Thinking back on that event, I am reminded how powerful reflexes are. When the car veered off the road, I knew what to do, but I did the opposite.  I knew not to jerk the steering wheel, but I did it regardless.

When it comes to changing the way we speak, we may have some very powerful reflexes to overcome.  The Bible tells us that when we come to Christ, we are a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17).  However, no one pushes the delete button to erase the old habits patterns that have been formed over time.  That comes with practice, training and reprogramming.

I want to encourage you not to get discouraged if you make a mistake and use your words in a negative way from time to time.  Satan would like nothing better than for you to simply give up on using your words for good.  But even Jesus knew that sometimes a temple has to be cleaned out more than once.

Shortly after Jesus’ first miracle at the wedding of Canaan, he traveled to Capernaum with his mother, brothers, and disciples.  It was almost time for the Jewish Passover celebration, so Jesus went up to Jerusalem to worship.  As he approached the temple, Jesus heard the bleating of sheep, smelled the stench of the cattle, and saw the gypsy-like haggling and exchanging of coins.  The temple had become a free-for-all rather than a house of prayer.

“So he made a whip out of cords, and drove all from the temple area, both sheep and cattle; he scattered the coins of the money changers and over-turned their tables.  To those who sold doves he said, ‘Get these out of here!  How dare you turn my Father’s house into a market!'” (John 2:15-16)

Yes, Jesus cleaned out the temple that day, but it wasn’t long before the money changers began to creep back in with their wares. I imagine it all began with one man setting up his table.  Then another and another until the carnival-type atmosphere once again polluted God’s house.

This incident recorded in John chapter two occurred at the beginning of Jesus’ earthly ministry.  But we see a similar scene toward the end.  It was just a few days before Jesus’ arrest and crucifixion.  He rode into town on a donkey as the crowd spread their cloaks on the road.  “Blessed is the king who comes in the name of the Lord!” they shouted as Jesus passed by.

Once Jesus arrived in Jerusalem, He headed straight for the temple area to worship. Once again He was met with the mayhem and stench of the money changers and the animals they sold for temple sacrifices.  As He had done three years prior, Jesus began driving out the money changers with their doves, sheep, and cattle scampering behind. “My house will be a house of prayer” Jesus proclaimed, “but you have made it a den of robbers!”

In the New Testament, God calls us temples of the living God (1 Corinthians 3:16).  Just as Jesus cleaned the temple at the beginning and the end of his earthly ministry, so we may need to clean out our temples many times.  Yes, we make a clean sweep of the sin in our lives on the day we accept Jesus as our Savior, but eventually, those bad habits tend to creep back in if the temple is left unattended.  So check up on yourself often.  Pay attention to your words and determine if you need a spring cleaning to keep the temple pure.

Psychologists tell us that it takes twenty-one days to establish a new habit. Here’s an idea, for twenty-one days, put five pennies in your left pocket.  Each time you say an encouraging word to someone, move a penny to the right pocket.  Make it your goal to move all the pennies from the left to the right and deposit encouraging words to those you come in contact with each day.  You’ll be doing more than moving pennies.  You’ll be investing in another’s soul.

James wrote, “If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless” (James 1:26).  Although James uses the analogy of a horse when teaching on the tongue, he’s not horsing around when it comes to the impact it has on those around us. Let’s reign in our words and gallop on down the path to changing the way we speak.

Let’s Pray
Dear Heavenly Father, I know it will take practice for me to tame my tongue.  And while James said it is impossible for man to tame the tongue, Your word also tells us that nothing is impossible for God.  So today, God, I’m asking You to tame my tongue.  I commit to participate and practice, as You provide the power.

In Jesus’ Name,
Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn
Go back and read today’s truth.  What did Paul tell us to do?

What is the result of practicing what the Bible teaches?

The verses that precede Philippians 4:9 are some of my favorite.  Pull out your Bible and look up Philippians 4:8 and use this as a guide to what you think about today.


Today’s devotion is taken from Sharon’s book, .  If you would like to learn more about how to tame the tongue and use your words to speak life into those around you, this is the book for you.  It also comes with a companion Bible study guide to use in a group or just on your own.

10 Responses to Retraining our Reflexes

  1. Chrissy November 4, 2009 at 1:11 pm #

    I absolutely love dissecting scriptures, and your devos are soo helpful in doing so! I look forward to them each morning.
    I read this verse in Phil several times, but now see it in a new light. Reflexes/retraining…wow! We put into practice everything we’ve learned from the world (school, parents, friends, etc.) each and every day without even recognizing it. We must remain diligent to kill the flesh each day and be mindful to put into practice the Word!
    thank you for sharing!

  2. Stacia November 4, 2009 at 1:50 pm #

    Hi Sharon, I just wanted to share a facebook post that I placed about two minutes before I received the Girlfriends in God devotional. Wow, God is Great!
    From Facebook:
    Late Night Thought: – there will be no criticizing in heaven, no gossip in heaven, no complaining, no negativity, no carrying on… SO WHY BRING IT HERE? I have the opportunity to bring the Kingdom of God to the earth or as taught in my church LIVE in the kingdom. Hoping to remember to be an example of something contrary to the usual way and remember I CAN with a little more awareness.

  3. Winona November 4, 2009 at 2:22 pm #

    What an insightful and applicable message for me! I would categorize “taming my tongue” as one of the top 3 things that the Lord has called me to accomplish. Since I tend to be a person who “talks while she’s thinking”, controlling the words that come out of my mouth is a MUST in order to be a Godly example for my children, family, friends and coworkers. Thank you for giving me the spiritual “medicine” to assist me in curing what ails me!

    God Bless YOU and the Girlfriehds in God newsletter…:-)

  4. Dianne from TX November 4, 2009 at 2:32 pm #

    Each morning, I used the “Girl Friends in God” Devotions to pass along to many of my sisters in Christ. I can usually read them and say hey I know just who this one will hit today, and send it out with a little blurp of my onw.

    I have only been a Christain for 1 year now, and one of my struggles is having to tame my toungue. Come to find out its part of the Lord’s Spiritual Gift he had giving me (Prophet). My boldness and truthfulness at a drop of a dime can hurt some, so I am in desperate need of prayers that will allow me to control when to speak the truth and when to let it loose.

  5. Chris November 4, 2009 at 3:51 pm #

    What a powerful devotional! Your story is riveting and a testimony to God’s goodness and plan in your life. Thank you for sharing that you didn’t respond as you knew you should. I’ve been noticing that in my life more and more lately, but you gave me hope for change..even if little by little. Thank you

  6. Jean Seaman November 5, 2009 at 3:19 am #

    I really enjoyed reading this devotional – passed on to me from my couson. Found it very encouraging because I have been really battling to
    keep my words positive but seem to loose it sometimes when stress, pressure and cares of this world come my way. The word says they will steel the word from us. will make a concerted effort to guard my heart and tongue with all diligence. Thanks for your encouragement.

  7. Suzy November 5, 2009 at 3:40 am #

    mmm… so true… so good to hear and be reminded of of!!!
    Thanks for remaining in the Word and encouraging your sisters in Christ!!!!

  8. Moira Nel November 5, 2009 at 4:07 am #

    Dear Sharon thank you for opening my eyes to the fact that to tame the tongue takes time and effort but that it can be done in JESUS NAME as I have failed more times than I care to remember and I felt unworthy to be accepted by our Heavenly Father but your message today taught me that this way of thinking is satans way

  9. Thandi November 5, 2009 at 5:34 am #

    Thank you for your devotion.This morning I cried out to the Lord,Why Lord do I do things that I do not want to do,what is wrong with me Lord?
    Then guess what,your devotion was exactly about what I am struggling with at the moment.The Lord had answered my prayers.The flesh keeps on creeping in and taking control instead of Jesus taking control of my tongue.My tongue has not been a tool of blessing and encouraging others of late.I pray that the Lord will intervene and help me as I learn to train my tongue.
    Thank you for teaching me that I have to clean my temple now and again and not get dispondent adn discouraged.
    God bless

  10. Maryann November 5, 2009 at 6:16 am #

    Thank-you for sharing your personal experiences, our heavenly father uses you, and your way with words, to encourage me, and to realize that I am not alone in my feelings.

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