No More Nagging

“The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective,” (James 5:16 TNIV).

Friend to Friend
There are some verses in the Bible that I wish God had just left out.  Here are a few of them:

  • A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping. (Proverbs 19:13)
  • A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day; restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand. (Proverbs 27:15,16)
  • Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife. (Proverbs  21:19)
  • Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife. (Proverbs 25:24)

OK, that’s about all I can take right now.  When I wrote the book, The best remedy to cure ourselves from being a nagging wife, or a nagging mother, or a nagging friend, is to become a praying woman. Jesus invites us to stop nagging our husbands (and others) and begin nagging God!

Here’s what Jesus had to say:

“Suppose one of you has a friend, and he goes to him at midnight and says, `Friend, lend me three loaves of bread, because a friend of mine on a journey has come to me, and I have nothing to set before him.’

“Then the one inside answers, `Don’t bother me. The door is already locked, and my children are with me in bed. I can’t get up and give you anything.’ I tell you, though he will not get up and give him the bread because he is his friend, yet because of the man’s boldness he will get up and give him as much as he needs.

“So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened. (Luke 11:5-9).

In the Greek, the words ask, seek, and knock are present participle verbs. The more correct translation would read, ask and keep on asking, seek and keep on seeking, knock and keep on knocking. God invites us to be persistent in our prayers. We can give our worries and cares to God and leave it up to Him to do the rest. “Cast all your cares on the LORD and He will sustain you,” (Psalms 55:22).  “Cast all your anxiety on Him for He cares for you,” (1 Peter 5:7). If you are married, remember, you don’t want to be your husband’s mother…you want to be the woman of his dreams.

Let’s Pray
Dear Lord, I confess that sometimes I nag my husband…alright, maybe more than sometimes. But Lord, I am determining in my heart to stop nagging my husband and start being consistent and persistent in prayer. My husband is Your workmanship, not mine. Forgive me when I try to yank the paint brush from Your hand and create brushstrokes of my own. I pray that I can be the woman that he needs in order to become the man that You desire.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn
What do you think a nag sounds like?

Do you ever nag your husband or other significant people in your life?

If there are things that you tend to nag your husband about, try this – write them down on a piece of paper, turn the list over to God, and then turn off the leaky faucet. Give it a try.  You might be surprised!

Scroll down to the comment section and tell me 1 leaky faucet comment you are going to turn off for good. Finish this sentence. “I’m not going to nag my husband (or friend, or parent, etc.) about __________ anymore. Instead I’m going to give it to God.

Want More?
Nagging just seems to come natural for most of us girls. But God calls us to live super-naturally.  If your marriage could use a bit of freshening up, take a look at Sharon’s book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams. And if it that little but powerful muscle called the tongue that needs an overhaul, see her book, The Power of a Woman’s Words.

13 Responses to No More Nagging

  1. Barbara February 24, 2012 at 5:45 pm #

    Sharon,

    I so appreciate your devotions, especially this one. I have filled in “his health” in the blank. After all, if 4 months in and out of the hospital isn’t going to make him take better care of himself, nothing will. I just gave him a head’s up that if he winds up there again I am not going to visit. But you know I will. So I am turning this over to God…

    Thank you for your spiritual mentoring. Barbara B.

  2. paintforgod Kim February 24, 2012 at 5:48 pm #

    Please don’t laugh@ me. I am going to stop my nagging with my husband about not preparing/ cooking the way I think it should be done. We both have a passion for cooking but it bothers me when seeds are left in the peppers or skin on the potatoes. I know its a silly unimportant nagging. I honestly admit how very fortunate I am that he cooks for me. Please forgive me ladies for sounding ungrateful. We’ve realized we can not be in the kitchen together trying to be helpful…so we wait patiently for the meal to be served and say Thanks babe. : )

  3. Full of Hope February 24, 2012 at 6:41 pm #

    “I’m not going to nag my husband (or friend, or parent, etc.) anymore about whether or not he has ended contact with a particular person . Instead I’m going to give it to God.

  4. Robin February 25, 2012 at 10:11 pm #

    Funny. I’m going to stop nagging about him not fixing dinner on days that I work and he doesn’t.

  5. DAWN February 27, 2012 at 1:01 am #

    IM GOING TO STOP NAGGING MY SON,HE IS MARRIED AND SOMETIMES I NAG HIM BEICAUSE THE KIDS ARENT DRESSED RIGHT OR THE HOUSE IS A MESS,ITS NOT THE WAY I WOULD DO THINGS ITS HIS HOUSE AND WIFE KIDS NOT MINE BUT ITS SO HARD SOMETIMES I CAN DO THIS.

  6. Shay February 27, 2012 at 9:32 pm #

    “I’m not going to nag my husband about showing me he loves me anymore. Instead I’m going to give it to God and know where ever my husband falls short God makes up for. Thank you Sharon your words are a blessing I am going to write this and put it in my prayer box

  7. Olebogeng March 18, 2012 at 9:19 pm #

    I’m not going to nag my fiance about not being the best that he used to be, I’m going to ask God to give me courage to help motivate him to do best in every aspect of life!

  8. Sharon Newmann April 5, 2012 at 8:01 pm #

    I’m going to stop nagging him about treating me right and not bring up past hurts in anger. I’ve been trying to zip my mouth in this area or say it in a calmer way. I will give it to God each day because it’s day by day that I need His strength to do it.
    Sharon

  9. Singerabroad May 11, 2012 at 2:21 pm #

    I’m going to stop nagging my husband about reading his devotions or doing anything to deepen his relationship with God. I know they’ll probably teach him something about God, God knows they’ll probably teach him something about God, but I’m sick of trying to be his spiritual mother and it doesn’t work anyway. So I’m going to leave his spiritual growth in God’s hands and expect a miracle! Thanks for your ministry, it’s so helpful, uplifting and encouraging. <3

  10. darcy May 31, 2012 at 6:57 pm #

    I know that I need to stop nagging him but I need your prayers and help. I am going to ask God for help too. It’s only through God that I can stop myself from nagging Joel everyday. Thankyou for your wonderful ministry. It’s so helpful and encouraging.

  11. JOAN June 14, 2012 at 4:13 am #

    SHARON I AM NOT GOING TO NAG MY HUSBAND OF 32 YEARS ABOUT HIS SMOKING, IT WILL TAKE GOD’S HELP, BUT I BELIEVE I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS ME. I BELIEVE IT,NOW I WILL LIVE IT TOO.

    JOAN

  12. Tina June 18, 2012 at 10:02 pm #

    Sharon, I’m going to stop nagging my husband about his chewing tobacco and how it costs our family hundreds of dollars per year, it’s a nasty habit. I pray that he turns to the Lord to satisfy anything missing in his life that the tobacco fills up. Thank you Heavenly Father!

  13. Yesenia Ortega January 30, 2013 at 6:30 pm #

    Hi, Sharon

    I just recently started reading your blogs and today i came across this particular. I know it’s an old blog but it hit very close to home. I am going to say that it was all in God’s planning. I filled in the blank with “playing video games”. My husband has a hobby of playing an online game. I’ve come to believe that it’s become an obsession. We have a one year old boy. He plays this game so much that he rarely helps me with our son. It has become so overwhelming that I’ve thought about leaving. I know that God has other plans for our lives so that is way this blog was very comforting to me. I will bring my nagging to God and leave it to him. Thank you.

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