6 Truths of Trials to Hang Your Hat On

 

Sometimes life doesn’t turn out the way we thought it would. Sometimes unexpected difficulties knock us off our feet and out of breath. Sometimes painful situations stab tender emotions already left fragile by past hurts.

In my own life, I’ve pondered the broken pieces of shattered dreams, and I’ve been amazed at what God has done with the pieces. A father who didn’t know how to love me. A childhood littered with parental violent outbursts. Years of infertility and longing for a child. The death of a baby before she was born. Ragged pieces all.

But even those shards have been used for a great purpose.

When we experience trials, broken dreams, or unexpected painful situations, we have a choice. Like Naomi in the book of Ruth, we can decide to become bitter, or we can ask God to use the trials to make us better.

Hopefully, a shattered dream will stir our appetites for a higher purpose or a higher calling or a higher love or a higher trust.

Can we love God no matter what?

Will we trust Him regardless of our circumstances?

Do we believe He has greater dreams for our lives than we ever imagined?

Author and counselor Larry Crabb writes,

“Shattered dreams open doors to better dreams, dreams that we do not properly value until the dreams that we improperly value are destroyed.  Shattered dreams destroy false expectations, such as the ‘victorious’ Christian life with no real struggle or failure. They help us discover true hope. We need the help of shattered dreams to put us in touch with what we must long for, to create a felt appetite for better dreams, and living for better dreams generates a new, unfamiliar feeling that we eventually recognize as joy.”

Time and time again, I have seen God take the most painful circumstances in my life and use them for His perfect purposes. Inevitably, I see that He had a greater dream in mind than I had ever imaged.

Just as a seed needs the darkness of the earth to germinate and sprout, many times we need the darkness of pain to cultivate a new and deeper walk with God.  But [tweetherder]oh the flowers that bloom in the soil of a fertile heart.[/tweetherder]

If you are going through a trial today, here are a few verses I want you to plant in your heart.

Trials test our faith: “In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith – of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire – may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.”  (I Peter 1:6)

Trials mature our character: “Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.  Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” (James 1:2-4)

Trials purify our souls:But He knows the way that I take when he has tested me; I will come forth as gold.” (Job 23:10)

Trials bring eternal glory: “For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” (2 Corinthians 4:17, 18).

Trials keep us dependent on God: “To keep me from becoming conceited because of these surpassingly great revelations, there was given me a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. (2 Corinthians 12:7-10)

Trials conform us to the image of Christ: “I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. (Romans 8:18)

So here’s the question for all of us today –when trails come, which they will, will you become bitter or better? If you are willing to take DEEP BREATH, and yield to God’s refining processes, simply leave a comment that says: “Refine me, Lord.”

 

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106 Responses to 6 Truths of Trials to Hang Your Hat On

  1. Cindy Batz October 8, 2013 at 2:27 pm #

    Refine me, Lord.

  2. laurel October 8, 2013 at 2:28 pm #

    “Dear Sharon,

    WOW!!!!
    The spirit of God is true and the same…… this word has come to me exactly when i need to here from God, thank you sharon.

    Lord refine me even when the trial seems as though it would overwhelm me. For i know that you are passing me through fire so that i can be refined like pure gold.”

    • mezzy August 7, 2015 at 5:51 pm #

      Refine me oh Lord. I place all my trust and hope in you.

  3. Lisa October 8, 2013 at 2:29 pm #

    Refine me, Lord.

  4. Deanne October 8, 2013 at 2:30 pm #

    Refine me, Lord!

  5. Mariza Ivey October 8, 2013 at 2:31 pm #

    Refine me!

  6. Jeanne October 8, 2013 at 2:32 pm #

    Refine me Lord!

  7. Monique October 8, 2013 at 2:32 pm #

    Refine me Lord. Help me to accept your process and not to become bitter, angry or loose hope in you.

  8. Lauran October 8, 2013 at 2:33 pm #

    Refine me Lord!!!

  9. Lynn October 8, 2013 at 2:33 pm #

    “My husband and I have been going thru a struggle that I don’t understand and find the purpose of. Your message today and the scriptures have given me
    Faith to trust in GOD and peace to allow Him to work thru me.”

  10. Jennifer October 8, 2013 at 2:34 pm #

    Refine me Lord

  11. Bernadette October 8, 2013 at 2:36 pm #

    Refine me, Lord!

  12. Betty October 8, 2013 at 2:36 pm #

    Jesus is my redeemer….he is still refining me…and how I praise Him for that.

  13. Stephanie October 8, 2013 at 2:37 pm #

    Refine me Lord

  14. Johanna October 8, 2013 at 2:38 pm #

    Refine me Lord, I pray. Show me your ways, Help me to see what it is you truly desire as I lay these broken dreams down. I release them into loving embrace and embrace the flame you’ve placed within me.. purging all areas of my heart, taking what you desire at this moment and pressing on equipted with your strength, your love, your mercy and grace. your dreams for your daughter…In Jesus name Amen.

  15. Carol October 8, 2013 at 2:39 pm #

    REFINE ME LORD, not only today but everyday!

  16. Tonja Bertog October 8, 2013 at 2:39 pm #

    Refine me, Lord!

  17. Heidi October 8, 2013 at 2:40 pm #

    Refine me Lord

  18. Dinora October 8, 2013 at 2:40 pm #

    Refine me Lord!

    • julie December 25, 2013 at 12:48 pm #

      Happy Birthday Please Dear LORD Refine Me & Family !!! God Bless everyone On thi page & All Others!!! Please Lord Refine ME!!!!! AMN!!!!

  19. Lisa Harness October 8, 2013 at 2:43 pm #

    Continue refining me Lord!

  20. Carole October 8, 2013 at 2:44 pm #

    Refine me, Lord! Today and every day

  21. Lisa October 8, 2013 at 2:45 pm #

    Refine me Lord today and everyday.

  22. Elsa October 8, 2013 at 2:45 pm #

    Refine me Lord!

  23. Kimberly October 8, 2013 at 2:46 pm #

    “Refine me, Lord.
    God spoke to me through this post this morning. He is all sufficient.”

  24. Linsey Wanja October 8, 2013 at 2:46 pm #

    Refine me, Lord

  25. Christine October 8, 2013 at 2:47 pm #

    Refine me, Lord

  26. Stephanie Pitre October 8, 2013 at 2:47 pm #

    Refine Me Lord

  27. Fannie October 8, 2013 at 2:48 pm #

    Refine me, Lord

  28. Marie October 8, 2013 at 2:49 pm #

    Refine me, Lord

  29. Carolyn October 8, 2013 at 2:50 pm #

    Refine me Lord

  30. BethA October 8, 2013 at 2:51 pm #

    “Oh, how I needed this! The rough stuff has been coming hard and fast. I pray that I become better, not bitter.

    Refine me, Lord!!”

  31. Michelle October 8, 2013 at 2:51 pm #

    That was something I needed to read. I am struggling and I want to hide. I don’t want anyone to see me or know how I feel. Showing up and sharing is terrifically hard. Thank you

  32. Susie October 8, 2013 at 2:52 pm #

    Refine me Lord!

  33. Nehrin October 8, 2013 at 2:52 pm #

    Refine me Oh Lord!

  34. Marcee October 8, 2013 at 2:53 pm #

    Refine me, Lord.

  35. minnie wharry October 8, 2013 at 2:54 pm #

    Refine me Lord

  36. Dianne October 8, 2013 at 2:54 pm #

    REFINE ME LORD!! 🙂 GO JESUS!!

  37. Ebony October 8, 2013 at 2:55 pm #

    Refine me oh Lord

  38. Caralee October 8, 2013 at 2:55 pm #

    Refine Me Lord! I have felt my dream of being a nurse has been passed up, but I am encouraged that if being a nurse is not what God wants of me, what He has in store for me. I am surrendering my dream to HIM! 🙂

  39. Priscilla Manker October 8, 2013 at 2:56 pm #

    Refine me, LORD!

  40. karenmkwezalamba October 8, 2013 at 2:56 pm #

    Refine me Lord

  41. Marilyn Sheen October 8, 2013 at 2:57 pm #

    Refine me O Lord

  42. Kim Marie October 8, 2013 at 2:58 pm #

    Refine me Lord

  43. KJ October 8, 2013 at 2:58 pm #

    REFINE ME LORD

  44. Vicky October 8, 2013 at 2:59 pm #

    Refine me, Lord!

  45. Sarah October 8, 2013 at 2:59 pm #

    Refine me, Lord!

  46. Melissa October 8, 2013 at 3:00 pm #

    Refine me, Lord. Thank you.

  47. Leona williamson October 8, 2013 at 3:00 pm #

    Refine me Lord.

  48. Fay Turnage October 8, 2013 at 3:01 pm #

    “Refine me, Lord”!

  49. Paula October 8, 2013 at 3:01 pm #

    Refine me Lord!!! Help me to be better and not bitter!! Help me to learn from my trials and apply those to my life and when times are good help me to help others who are going through trials. I love you and I love that you love me!! In Jesus’ Sweet and Holy Name. AMEN!!!!

  50. Andrea October 8, 2013 at 3:02 pm #

    Refine me Lord!

  51. Avis Wright October 8, 2013 at 3:03 pm #

    Refine me, LORD!!!

  52. Debra Miiller October 8, 2013 at 3:03 pm #

    Refine me Lord…and that you for the beautiful story.Be with me lord durning this long painful trial… I give all of me to you for the glory at the end will be yours.

  53. Sophie October 8, 2013 at 3:04 pm #

    Refine me Lord.

  54. Linda Smith October 8, 2013 at 3:05 pm #

    I need to be refined today feeling down and out over unfulfilled dreams

  55. Monica October 8, 2013 at 3:05 pm #

    Refine me Lord

  56. Abby Jones October 8, 2013 at 3:06 pm #

    Refine me Lord…………………………..

  57. Vonnie Kronk October 8, 2013 at 3:06 pm #

    Refine me, Lord.

  58. Nadia October 8, 2013 at 3:07 pm #

    Refine me Lord!

  59. Ruth October 8, 2013 at 3:07 pm #

    refine me Lord

  60. Sandy October 8, 2013 at 3:08 pm #

    Refine Me Lord

  61. caren carter October 8, 2013 at 3:08 pm #

    Refine me Lord!

  62. Patrice October 8, 2013 at 3:09 pm #

    Refine me Lord.

  63. Debra October 8, 2013 at 3:10 pm #

    Refine me ! Lord……

  64. Dee Clayton October 8, 2013 at 3:10 pm #

    Refine me Lord.

  65. Vi-Ann October 8, 2013 at 3:11 pm #

    Refine me Lord!!!

  66. Chiletso October 8, 2013 at 3:11 pm #

    Refine me Lord

  67. Anne Jenifer October 8, 2013 at 3:12 pm #

    “Refine me, Lord.;) I surrender everything at his feet…
    Thank you Lord….”

  68. Sophie Bamwoyeraki October 8, 2013 at 3:13 pm #

    Refine me Lord!

  69. MK October 8, 2013 at 7:58 pm #

    REFINE ME LORD

  70. Eva Adomaa Kyereboah October 8, 2013 at 7:59 pm #

    Refine me, Oh Lord.

  71. Zernah October 9, 2013 at 3:13 pm #

    Going through God’s refining process now. And I rejoice that He has made me understand that He is at work in my heart… And working His miracles there. Knowing Him more and growing in Him is worth the pain. Thank you, Lord, for what You are doing in me.

  72. Nicole Sequera October 9, 2013 at 3:14 pm #

    Refine me Lord!

  73. Christelle Robertson October 9, 2013 at 3:15 pm #

    Refine me Lord! Your will be done in my life! Glory to Your name!

  74. Janet October 9, 2013 at 3:15 pm #

    Refine me Lord

  75. millicent were October 9, 2013 at 3:16 pm #

    Refine me Lord!

  76. Linda Weems October 9, 2013 at 3:16 pm #

    Refine me please my Lord! Thanks and Praise!!

  77. Theresa October 9, 2013 at 3:17 pm #

    Refine me too O Lord I pray. Keep me safe both night and day. Fill my spirit to overflowing with your grace, mercy and truth. Bring me through these trials to victory for Your Name Sake and deliver me from the evil one.

  78. Barbara October 9, 2013 at 3:17 pm #

    “Refine me Lord. As you recall from scripture reading, Jesus did warn us “”in this world you will have troubles”” and He was right on.

    Thank you for the post today Sharon!”

  79. Barbara October 9, 2013 at 3:18 pm #

    Refine me Lord!

  80. Angela October 9, 2013 at 3:18 pm #

    Refine me Lord. I want to be better & not bitter. In Jesus’s . Amen!

  81. Erika October 9, 2013 at 7:50 pm #

    Refine me, Lord. AMEN!

  82. Nancy Beneteau October 9, 2013 at 7:51 pm #

    “Refine Me Lord!!!!
    My life definitely doesn’t follow how I pictured it. Lead the way Lord, Lead the way!”

  83. Nichole October 10, 2013 at 3:19 pm #

    REFINE ME OH LORD!

  84. Yvonne October 10, 2013 at 3:19 pm #

    “Refine me, Lord.”

  85. Esther October 10, 2013 at 7:49 pm #

    Refine me, Lord .

  86. Pat October 12, 2013 at 3:20 pm #

    I highly recommend the Shattered Dreams book you quoted. It was/is a life-changer for me. I pray that my trials make me better, not bitter!

  87. Delfina Brown October 14, 2013 at 7:52 pm #

    Refine me Lord

  88. Nora October 14, 2013 at 7:52 pm #

    I have not delighted in being insulted. Forgive me Lord, for not seeing your purpose. And refine me Lord.

  89. Christine October 15, 2013 at 7:54 pm #

    Refine me Lord.

  90. Nnenna October 16, 2013 at 3:21 pm #

    Refine me Lord! I desperately need you more than ever!

  91. Dammy October 19, 2013 at 7:55 pm #

    Refine Me Lord, i yield my self completely to your will

  92. Monica Ruiz October 21, 2013 at 7:53 pm #

    Refine me Lord.

  93. Zizi-Mama October 22, 2013 at 7:55 pm #

    Refine me Lord. Thanks for your Word that I may hide it in my heart.

  94. christine October 24, 2013 at 7:56 pm #

    Refine me lord

  95. Pj October 24, 2013 at 7:57 pm #

    Help me get better and not bitter lord when all around me seems hopeless. Be my sufficiency and help me to trust you fully even now. Amen

  96. Rhonda Hogge October 24, 2013 at 7:57 pm #

    Refine me, Lord! Make me and mold me, Lord for I am yours.

  97. Alesia October 31, 2013 at 9:13 pm #

    Refine me Lord this helped me there has been a trial for almost a year that I am experiencing everytime I give God praise for helping me through one storm the enemy knocks me down but, In Jesus Name I will not give up because I know that God will be there for me, I know that so and very soon this trial will come to a close because I have the best defense attorney in the World Jesus.

  98. venus madanguit liquit November 3, 2013 at 5:40 am #

    REFINE ME LORD.

  99. nova November 6, 2013 at 1:19 am #

    refine me lord

  100. Konni Taylor November 25, 2013 at 7:33 am #

    Refine me God

  101. julie December 25, 2013 at 12:50 pm #

    Refine Me Lord!!!

  102. Karen June 24, 2014 at 3:07 pm #

    Refine me Lord, I’m so ready!

  103. Karen June 24, 2014 at 3:07 pm #

    Refine me Lord, I’m so ready!

  104. Naomie August 25, 2014 at 7:09 am #

    Refine me Lord, I’m truly and completely ready.

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